i need some help. im a horrible gf.
everytime me and my boyfriend hangout i get really mad at him and lash out.
im not trying to excuse my behavior, but the reason i lash out is because it seems like he is purposefully trying to annoy me, or he does something stupid in public that makes us look bad, and hes always late to our dates.
how can i grow and learn to not lash out at him and stay calm? i hate being a bad gf to him.
im also going to ask my therapist about this, but i thought id get answers from multiple people.
thank you
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i think you should talk to him abt this, like honestly. be honest to him about ur feelings lately, how you've been, and whatnot. other than that whoever you are im proud ur taking therapy and hope things get better for you 🥹🫶🏼
yea we have been talking about it and i always end up just apologizing and it happens again. thank you!
by evaland09; ; Report
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Not enough info. From what you said, maybe you're overreacting and need to chill, or maybe he's a giant dickhead and you're going to therapy to gaslight yourself into being mistreated more easily. Impossible to say from here.
what more info would you like? i can share more
by evaland09; ; Report
Like what he does to annoy you and make you look bad in public. How you react. What he says when you talk about it, and then does it again. All the details.
by null; ; Report
when he annoys me its because he watches instagram reels with a loud volume (those reels that are just people yelling) when im trying to have a chill time and i kindly ask him to turn it off and he never does. and at a mall he has ran away from me and left me alone just because he got excited to see something. he is also ALWAYS and i mean always late to our dates. and he complains about the cost of things when he agreed to go. these things happen almost every single date and thats why it gets me so annoyed that i lash out. theres more that i genuinely just cant remember now for some reason, i apologize. in public he has no social awareness, he will walk into people and be loud and be rude to employees. he doesnt know how to use his card. i mean really? he will walk ahead of me or behind me when im walking at a completely normal pace mind you. it makes us look like we arent even together and it embarrases me. he just isnt very good in public. you know how theres some people that really just have no social awareness? thats him. the way i react is by either starting to ignore him or quietly scold him. and it gets him really sad. later when i apologize, we talk about it and i ask him to stop doing all these things that gets me upset and he says that he isnt doing anything wrong and then continues to do it. i hope this is enough, lmk if you need more info
by evaland09; ; Report
NymphaEa
idk im not a therapist but ig you should talk with him. I think id be healthier if u both talk about it and try to solve it. Cause u can not lash out at him and keep it all to yourself but thats not healthy in a long term. also the problem will be still there, which is his behaviour.
so yea, idk, maybe talkin with him could help (●'◡'●)
yea ive been talking to him about it and he doesnt change his behavior
by evaland09; ; Report
ouuh, ig thats more difficult then. maybe u should talk with ur therapist then cause tbh if i were in ur place id give him an ultimatum lol, but i dont wanna give u bad advice
by NymphaEa; ; Report
yea im def gonna talk to my therapist and then have the most serious talk with him and try one last time to get him to stop his behavior. thank you!
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