context On How this topic even came in2 my Mind ;
i Have two IRL friends who i Basically Hang Out with everyday . one of them is enby ,jyust Like me ! the Other is a cishet dud Who is relatively New 2 the concept of being Non binary . But he Does Try 2 refer 2 us correctly ( gender neutral terms & they/them pronouns )
But from my Observation; he mostly refers 2 Me correctly , i assume because i put in Effort in2 Looking androgynous, i guess .. even though i Don t Think i Look that much so . but in comparism 2 my other friend , they R very heavily feminine Leaning . That is No Problem of course . But because of that our friend constantly Finds it difficult 2 See them as Non binary . Misgendering them consistently . Not On Purpose of course , but its Obvious he has 2 really Push 2 reconstruct His mindset because of his views taught by Society
i Know this is Lowkey just a Nothing burger of a blog post ,But ime just thinking Thoughts :-P. it jyust Makes Me Sad How 2 the General Society , that it is Expected from enbys 2 Look Androgynous , when we do Not At All Owe any1 that . Not only enbys #tbh . Literally Any1 Else Do Not Neither, Transgender Women can dress as masculine as they Wish . and it Makes me upset that people See Less of them if They Do so . i Just Hope more n More people Realise this ...
#NBsDoNotOweYouAndrogyny !
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i mean if you dont want to be misgendered or something i think making a slight effort to look enby or whatever is helpful towards others, though i do agree its not owed to anyone of the sorts.
as long as the person doesnt have an outburst over one mistake of misgendering, i dont inherently see anything wrong with it, unless they start crashing when it was merely an accident and not intentional.
i agree the enby thing is still kind of new to some people, since there was a big acceptance of lgbtq during these years online, and some just werent quite there. gender is very hard overall sometimes.
100%. wat Bothers me is that we ve All been friends 4 quite a while Now (since January) Nd he knew since the beginning that our friend is Non binary , yet he still Slips up ... if it wuz the furst few times / he didnt Know ,The Mistake is completely Valid .
Nd yeah :-( i wish Gender didnt exist XD
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