Boring Relationships W/ Men & Boring People

Lately I’ve been realizing I really don’t have much romantic attraction to cis men. Like, I can still be sexually attracted to them, and I don’t mind dealing with men sexually sometimes, but romantically? It’s just not really there for me.

And honestly, I think a lot of it comes down to the type of men I keep running into. So many of them either wanna be “different” but are really just the same dude with a TikTok personality, or they’re so glued to the internet that they don’t even seem to know what they genuinely like anymore. They’ll swear they’re into something because it’s “different” or cool, but when you actually wanna have a conversation about it, they don’t know anything.

I don’t need somebody who likes everything I like. Hell, I actually like when somebody has their own interests that I know nothing about because I wanna learn about them. I just want somebody who’s genuine. Somebody with morals, compassion, curiosity, and an actual personality outside of social media and wanting to look different.

I wanna be able to have deep conversations, start a book club together, go to museums, take baking or crochet classes, go camping, fishing, play sports, make art, try random shit—literally ANYTHING besides just watching movies, cuddling, having sex, and doing whatever relationship trend is popular that week.

I’ve noticed I have way less of an issue with this with women, trans men, and trans women. A lot of them seem more open to genuine connection and actually exploring things together, but even then, sometimes you hit that same wall where they don’t really wanna try anything new or they just fall into doing the same things everybody else does. And once that happens, the relationship starts feeling stagnant in that area. With cis men, though, it feels like I just end up going full circle every time.

Maybe I’ll meet a man who changes my mind someday, but right now I’m realizing I’m way more attracted to genuine connection than the idea of having a boyfriend just because I could have one.

And honestly, I think this is a problem with people in general nowadays. Everybody wants to be “different,” but somehow everybody ends up copying the same version of being different. I just want somebody who actually took the time to figure out who they are instead of becoming whatever the internet told them was cool.