Everyone get more romantic

I want a boyfriend so bad but so many guys just immediately go straight to freaky talking and I just know they only wanna crack, because they don't even try to get to know me. It makes me sad, because I just want a real connection, I've never been the type to just think of hookups, in fact I'd never do that. I don't get attracted to people unless there's a connection and I don't even know how people can just go straight to intimacy without knowing each other even? 

Sometimes I think about just writing stories instead of dating at all because it feels so hard to find someone who actually wants a relationship and not a "friend" with benefits.