hai guys
i’m having a disagreement with my boyfriend. this has been the only time over the year and few months we’ve been together that i’ve actually considered breaking up with him. i asked him a few weeks ago, “would you date me if i transitioned to a man and started presenting masculinely?” his response was something along the lines of “no because im not attracted to trans men”. i thought about what he said every day and every time i remembered his response id start crying. it’s not like i wanna transition anyway, i’ve identified as nonbinary and presented fem for quite some time and im comfortable with that. what hurt me was realizing that if i ever did decide to express myself differently or present more masculinely, he wouldn’t want to be with me anymore. i guess it made me feel like his attraction to me was conditional on me looking a certain way, even though id still be the exact same person he’s known and loved throughout our relationship
i’ve been trying to figure out if this is me being “too woke” or something ???? am i crazy or valid for questioning my boyfriends superficiality (if that’s even the right word to use (???))
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foggyyaps4ever
dude obvi I don't know your relationship so take this with a grain of salt
but like I feel like I'm forever hearing this kind of story of guys who just don't respect their partner's identity just tolerate it as long as it doesn't make them feel gay too many of these types of guys just view their partners as "weird girls" in their head instead of seriously knowing them
protect yourself it's not "too woke" to recognize repression, the person your in a relationship with shouldn't make you feel like you can't fully be yourself
This! Exactly this!
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