so i havent come out as trans to anybody except my sister and my boyfriend. And my boyfriend was very upset about it saying ''things will never be the same'' and saying he would break up with me if i started dressing/acting/talking like a boy. Ive been able to put up with presenting as a girl and using my deadname and unpreferred pronouns, but recently i js feel so uncomfortable being and presenting that way. My boyfriend has always been super weird about me having guy friends which is stupid. He interrogates me whenever he sees that im following a boy or when i even mention a guy. and i find it so stupid and disrespectful that i have to explain to him whenever one of my guy friends is transgender/gay because he automatically thinks that theyre ''not a real boy'' or not attracted to girls. and he recently hasn't been wanting me to get close to any of my girl bsfs because i came out as bisexual which makes me feel stuck and isolated feeling like i literally cannot talk to anyone. He doesn't let me talk or hang out with my guy friends. I have a super close friend i met when i was admitted into an eating disorder residential, who happened to be a biological boy, and he literally made me unfollow him on instagram. we BARELY talk. He lives like 4 hrs away, and i don't even hang out w my girl bsfs at all since ive been grounded for 2 yrs, so WHY does it matter?
Anyways enough about my nasty bf, i feel so insanely uncomfortable being the girl version of myself. And my mom is suspecting that im transitioning. My mom is Catholic. Im so scared and the only person who supports me in this is my sister. And i've heard that one of my close friends is openly transphobic. im js so scared cus i live in a very republican, openly RACIST, trans/homophobic area. I really might come out to my best friend blythe, and wait until next year to js fully be corey yk.
fellow trannies, HOW did u come out?
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Gunk_muncher670
Do not come out unless you are safe. Do what is safe for you and will make you feel comfortable (ex: cutting your hair, using preferred names around safe people, dressing more masculine), but unless you're in a safe situation it isn't worth it to come out until you can get away from the unsafe people around you.
As for your boyfriend, nothing justifies his actions and nothing justifies staying with him. If he's acting like this nothing is stopping him from escalating his treatment. Leave him ASAP and don't look back.
willow
break up with the bf ! also just be honset I'm not trans but I have like 7 friends who are they all came out to me first and then they told their parents just be honset and if you get stuck in a bible I would say maybe this : Mom, Dad, there's something important I want to tell you. I've been thinking about this for a long time, and I'm transgender. I know this might be hard to understand, especially because of our faith, but this is something real to me. I'm still the same person you've always known, and I still love you. I'm not asking you to understand everything right away. I just hope you can listen to me and try to understand who I am. I really need your love and support right now. ( my friend said that to the VERY Catholic family) idk you do u ok