i think my EX and a few of my friends are transphobic

my ex who said they supported me being trans male said that they were a lesbian even while i was openly trans they also dont care when people are transphobic to me

on the other hand my friend said to another trans kid (mtf/demigirl/girlflux) that "you would get bullied if you were trans" and she said "but he" (gestures to me) then she gets cut off by my friend and my friend says "well dave gets bullied too" (i dont) then said "dave is our friend but deep down SHES still the deadname that we are friends with"

EX and EX's best friend also refuse to use trans girls pronouns (she/they) but say they support because they use my preffered pronouns and preffered name which i think is stupid because EX has so many people that will support them but im the only person that supports her

are they transphobic