Im constantly outwoking the ppl I'm hanging out with and this is starting to drain tf out of me

I'll start from the beginning but not really, I don't have many friends and it's also hard for me to make genuine long lasting friendships, so when I find someone I %60 vibe with, I hang onto them like a leech. Having little to no self respect has never made me become the punching bag or a collectivist sheep in my relationships but I still find myself nitpicking the "qualities" of some of my friends. And that is, our idea of being a regular person differ. 

At summer I was hanging out with this one close friend that is basically a limb to me. Like if I lose her I lose my left kidney THAT'S how much I value her. 

She randomly said, "yk non binary people are just regular ftm or mtf people that are either confused or they beg for attention. Like being non binary doesn't exist they're just confused trans people that force normal people like us to adapt to their phase." I was obviously shocked when she casually had the audacity to not keep that shit from ass opinion an inside voice. I "calmly" explained to her that no, what she's saying has no biological explanation, not everything can have a radical one way explanation, and that she has never had to feel like her body is a cage so she's spewing bs about a feeling that she hasn't even experienced. I told her that she's making someone being non binary about herself when nothing in her life change. 

We had a respectful argument going on then when she realize that she can't persuade me into thinking her way she let it go. Or at least I thought she did but yesterday when there was me, her and a couple of more friends she opened this topic up again. A topic that I have a lot of information on and she has none but OK goddamn I guess her ego was so shattered that she needed the support of other friends around her as if we are debating I'm a college student and she's Charlie Kirk. 

She's going on saying some bullshit like "I can't adapt to new pronouns if someone came out me non binary has no literal definition" I said "ok then when someone somehow manages to value you enough to come out to you just cut the friendship and say you're transphobic." She obviously didn't like my snarky comeback so she said "they're expecting me to adapt myself to their lifestyle I got too much already like I'm not gonna force myself to remember your new name and new pronouns." Like what the fuck why are you making this about yourself someone being non binary isn't about you????

Then our other friend which is a fucking dumbass when it comes to woke conversation wanted to put his two cents so he said to me "junia you respect everyone and whatever they want to be and all that but if your friend suddenly proposed that they're a nudist, yk me personally I wouldn't trust that person to pick my kids up from school." Also he said that they/them pronouns (non gendered pronouns) doesn't make sense like it does in like other languages ​​derived from Arabic. And if a non binary person comes out to him he will make sure to explain this person about the beauty of West Germanic language tree and it's gendered pronouns.

First of all he's a fucking engineering major not a god damn linguist, second of all casually explaining to a non binary person that their pronouns doesn't make any sense is really ignorant and trust me they heard that shit probably all of their lives like you're not helping or you're not Einstein of the english language ain't no one gaf. THIRD OF ALL YOU CANT COMPARE RESPECTING SOMEONE'S PRONOUNS WITH A NUDIST PICKING MY HYPOTHETICAL CHILDREN FROM SCHOOL HOW TF IS THAT IN THE SAME CATEGORY????? I did ask "a nudist and a non binary person doesn't show parallelism?" He said "yes it does." LIKE NO IT DOESN'T??????

Like they just pissed me off omg the world doesn't revolve around you people when did you guys become so evil like where's this illiterate hate coming from.

Then they said I'm too woke cuz I'm a psych major like no tf I'm not I just have a tiny bit of empathy and I think people deserve respect I didn't know saying people deserve respect was so goddamn controversial like I'm so fucking sorrity.

That was a verity reference btw anyway yeah now that I puked all my hate I feel better.