I'm not sure what to do

So my boyfriend and I are not speaking at the moment because he feels like I'm moving too fast and I feel like he's not moving fast enough. To be fair, I know I can be a lot, but in my defense he started the ball rolling like this, I just matched his energy. But I guess he didn't realize what he was getting himself into with me. I won't get into the details but I say all this to say I'm not entirely sure what to do here. It's like at some point in every relationship I have they feel like I'm too much, like my presence is overwhelming, and then I'm left to suffer in silence while they get to be comfortable wit their distance. It's a classic case of an avoidant x anxious relationship. The avoidant gets what they need while the anxious is left in the dark. I'm always the anxious one in these situations. I swear I feel like Michelle from How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. I can never seem to get the relationship thing right. Like there's always eventually something that I do wrong then either they want to break up with me or they need a lot of space. Now I am not buy any means trying to play victim, I fully understand that I am a contributing factor, and that it is important for me to cater to their feelings as well. but at what point are my feelings considered/ I'm not the type who is ok going days without talking at all, or being left on delivered, etc., and I feel like that's completely valid. What's the point of being in a relationship if you don't want to talk to your partner? What's the point if I simple check in everyday is overwhelming? If good morning and goodnight texts are too much? If I can't share exciting things that happen to me throughout the day without fear that I may be overwhelming my partner. I don't even know if I need advice or what at this point, I just feel so stupid. I mean I gave my body to him multiple times, allowed him to see all of me in an incredibly vulnerable situation, ignored my insecurities and surrendered to him fully because I love and trust him, but suddenly I'm doing to much by openly expressing how much I love him? I don't understand how you can be so intimate with someone in so many ways but turn around and tell them that the way they lo9ve you is overwhelming. And he's never even brought this up before. He's thank me whenever I posted him, get excited when I put his initials in my bio or on the back of my phone case, beg to see me at 2:00 in the morning knowing I'd have to drive an hour to get to him. And these are things I love, things I'm happy to do, but to turn around and tell me that now it's moving too fast when you spent the past 4 months encouraging me to love you openly and proudly? It's like suddenly he wants to keep me a secret. I understand wanting to slow down a little bit, but that doesn't require telling me you need time to decide whether you actually want to be with me. Doesn't require telling me that you love me and therefore don't want to string me along. We've been going strong and steady for 4 months, it's too late to not string me along. Not once since we met have I changed how I act around him, so I'm not understanding why it's suddenly a problem. He's allowed to ask for my location to make sure I make it to his house safely, but I can't ask for the same thing? I mean I just wanted to make sure he'd be ok driving an hour and 15 minutes through some of the busiest areas in the country to get to me. But I guess caring is suddenly overbearing. I just don't know what to do, truly. He's making me feel so stupid for telling everyone how great he is and how perfect we are together by suddenly not being ok with how things have been going. I mean we've literally been in a relationship since we met, we just didn't have a label for most of the time. He told me he loved me first, he started this whole thing, but suddenly I'm the crazy and obsessive one? I swear I have been the LEAST crazy and obsessive I've ever been in any relationship ever. I'm trying my best to not do to much, but at some point it's just who I am. I don't know. I don't want to break up, I don't want space, I just want to understand why he's doing this and make sure things go back to the way we were. Because why ask me to be your girlfriend if there's things about me you don't like? It's been 8 days since we made it official. He hasn't even given us a good shot yet. He's running from his problems like a coward. I wouldn't mind slowing down, but that's all he had to say. There's no reason for the dramatics. Like genuinely why not set clear expectations about the relationship BEFORE asking to make it official? It doesn't make any sense. We had a 3-4 month trial period, he knew exactly what he was getting into, nothing has changed. He just seems to be realizing he doesn't like me maybe? Or maybe I was being love bombed the whole time who knows. I mean my gut is never wrong, I just choose to ignore it when it comes to getting what I want. But still, I'm embarrassed, I feel stupid, and I just want my perfect gorgeous boyfriend back, not this man who claims he doesn't know me well enough yet to love me out loud. This is just not fair.

Signing off,

Abri