It is not normal for a celebrity to be the “only reason you’re alive”/ Ramble #14

I feel bad writing this post. I feel like this is telling a kid that santa clause isn’t real (if you believe santa clause is real than he is.. shhh…)

okay. so i know some of you are real deep down in some deep shit but i really want to let you guys know that it’s NOT normal for an artist or celebrity to be the ONLY reason you’re alive. And if it is, I’m sorry but you’re probably worsening your own mental health.

now don’t get me mixed up here. It’s perfectly okay for their art to help you cope through rough times then that’s perfectly okay. But parasocial relationships have genuinely become WAY too normalized. 

Yes i know you think your favorite artist is talented and amazing and i bet they are, but your own life shouldn’t depend or be dictated by someone who doesn’t know you and you DONT know them

this way of seeing them is both inhumane towards your favorite artist but also most likely putting yourself in danger.. 

If you’re even more unlucky your favorite artist might try and groom ya. Not even going to try to sugar coat this.. but they are as human as everyone around you. 

…so what if you are in this situation where you’re very dependently parasocial

maybe find hobbies, maybe find people, go spend time outside, maybe even inside?? i dont want this blog to come across as rude or anything because i’ve totally been in this spot before and i want to tell you right now it’s DANGEROUS….

you really don’t know the people you put on this huge pedestal and you don’t know they intentions or what they are like outside of their image. You do not love them, you love their image. If your life depends on a crafted image then you need to find something in YOUR life worthwhile, not in someone else’s. 

I know a lot of people do get personally offended if you say something about their favorite artists but that’s because you just see yourself in them because you don’t love yourself enough to see yourself as the person you are. and that’s completely okay. It’s never too late to work on yourself.

It took me a lot of years to not personally act like i know my favorite celebrities and ever since i stopped depending my life on them, my mental health has been way better and my self-esteem is a lot more stable. I’ve also grown closer relationships to actual people in my life and made worthwhile connections and hobbies and overall it’s been so much better. 

please. Gerard way is not your savior. He just works his job. (an example..) it’s like thinking the stripper loves you..

anyways peace and love i wish the best for yall

if yall need some advice comment i gotcha