self care

why does "self care" not feel like how it's supposed to?ya know,like something to make you feel better,relaxed,taken care of,it's just kind of draining,so many extra steps.for example,fancy baths,you add stuff to the water,you put on creams and masks,light a candle,play music or whatever,shave,wash hair,and then supposedly something after the bath itself,sitting in a robe,with another candle,reading or watching something.sure some of steps are already part of a bath,but there's a lot of extra steps,especially if you count the bringing stuff there and back.i guess it feels clean (minus the shaving,growing hair feels weird) but by the end i'm kind of just done with it,so i only do the basics because it's less tiring.