you’re not queer because you’re a woman. stop trying to include yourself

There will be a lot of repetition in this so.. sorry .  

I’ve been seeing a lot of women being included into queer spaces recently. ‘Girls and the gays’, ‘spaces for women, nonbinaries, etc’, and general instances of women being in the exact same spaces as people like me. People who are gay, transgender, non-binary. Not lesbians, not demigirls, just..cisgender, heterosexual, normal ass women. Included within our spaces. 

I think it’s stupid. I think women being included into queer spaces is exceedingly dumb, and I’m not going to stand for it. I’m saying this as someone who’s a feminist; I’ve been a feminist since 2024, and even before then I knew that I supported women. I believe in the downfall of the patriarchy, I believe in the destruction of anything that gets in the way of the rights of half of our whole population. I’m not misogynistic, basically. I don’t say that we have to exclude women because I hate them. 

But I do think that this is a harmful thing to do. We have had to fight for our rights for so long, and I think a lot of you forget that this isn’t just some fun customisation. Being gay or transgender is real, and people will still kill you for it; while it’s legalised now, they’re still trying to pass bills against transgenderism, and we all know that they’ll come for gays and lesbians next. I wouldn’t be surprised if they already have. We can’t just settle, stop fighting, and act like everything is fine and dandy and all-inclusive when our people are being murdered. 

We have to actually protect our space. Women are oppressed, absolutely, but they are half of the population and can also oppress queer people. I’ve been denied access to my own name and gender by the women in my life; mothers will get angry at their children for being queer, girls will bully their queer classmates. They’re not exempt from being oppressors just because they’re oppressed themselves. 

And let’s not forget that they aren’t even discriminated against in the same way we are. A cisgender heterosexual woman is not queer in any way. So why are we including them? There’s simply no reason to. Not only are we generalising what it means to be LGBTQ+, we’re letting the women put themselves into more oppression. 

Females are equal to males, women are equal to men, if not biologically a little superior. By including themselves into a smaller, far more oppressed group, they aren’t fighting for their rights. They’re basically just saying that they’re strange, they’re odd, and they’re fine with that. Is it good to be a strange woman? Yes. But as a group, get the FUCK UP. You’re not down here with us, you should be up there with them. Obviously there’s nothing wrong with being queer — you’d never hear that coming from me, I love being gay and transgender — but societally it is seen as ‘lower’. More..exotic, to drill into your head how they see us. You’re not exotic if you’re a cishet woman, especially if you’re white. You’re the right-hand-woman of that ‘perfect white man’ we all picture when we think of an oppressor. 

And the phenomena of women pushing anything masculine out of queer spaces is one that’s well-recorded too. It’s just a circle-jerk of redirected internalised misogyny, I hate it! Femininity isn’t queer, masculinity isn’t ’not-queer’, I’m a gay trans man and I’m very queer and I am part of the LGBTQ+ whether you like it or not. You’re pushing other groups of queer people out to let people who aren’t even lesbian in. 

If you’re who I’m talking about, dear maybe-white cishet woman, get out of the gay club. Get out of the lesbian bar. Stop roleplaying as being queer and focus on liberating yourself from your own oppression, the oppression that made you forget that you’re not us. I do hope all oppressed groups can come together and fight, but you don’t see me trying to include myself into spaces specifically for women just because I’ve gotten called my deadname before. It’s weird. Stop roleplaying.

There may be some generalisation here but I just spoke from the heart because I’ve been getting well annoyed at women thinking they’re queer and people excluding anything masculine from queer spaces they see masculinity as ‘rapeyoppressorhahawe’renotlikethem’ and nothing else. ok bye