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Hi! I’m gonna start a series where I kinda just ask questions (usually surrounding my mental health) and see if anyone has any insight, or maybe just relates. I know I could ‘just ask google’ but I like the whole human aspect of asking here.


Anyway, question #1: 

After Covid, like most people, I had a really hard time adjusting to people again. This was around middle school, and we’d just gotten back to in person in 7th grade. Well, I had two really severe breakdowns, both at the same time: lunch. It was like the thought of being around people and the noise made me nauseous. It genuinely caused me so much distress. I haven’t had anything like that sense, and I think I’ve mellowed out, but sometimes, the thought of being around people genuinely fills me with a sickening dread. Would anyone happen to know why?

“And we’ll all dance along to the sound of your death! We’ll love again, we’ll laugh again, and it’s better off this way…” -Gerard Way 🎼
Yep, I know exactly why! You had a normal pavlovian brain response, albeit a semi-extreme one. (Having had long covid 3x and still recovering from the last one years ago it's very justified though imo...) Your brain negatively associated the idea of being around people with getting you sick and harming you. So just recovering from covid, and knowing that it was caused by being around people, is a huge source of subconsious anxiety. It's an aerosolized virus, so everyone talking is just them spraying their virons into the air for you to then breath and get you sick AGAIN.

Just like eating a food that makes you feel like crap especially if it makes you throw up. It is disgusting/repulsive to your body after that experience because your body associates it with sickness.

You mellowing out is called the mere exposure effect. Basically you got re-exposed to the same stimulus (human contact) without the negative effect (getting sick).
This retrains your brain to unassociate the negativity and move back towards positivity.

The same technique (exposure therapy) is how anyone can get over basically any phobia, some people with extreme phobias just need a slow/steady introduction. e.g. fear of elevators. You just get as close to being inside the elevator as you can initially. Sometimes this is just being across the room and looking at it at first. Once you become more comfortable with that you get closer to the elevator, maybe you push the call button and watch the doors open but you don't get in. Then maybe you put one foot in the threshold then pull it out. etc. etc. Next thing you know you are using the elevator like normal with no fear/anxiety about it! :)

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