why is it so hard to find smn willing to actually go crazy for u (actually pay attention and not leave me on delivered)
bc men like to be chased and will do anything but be truly masculine and show attention and affection. truly a sad world we live in rn. wheres the timeline where men would stand outside your house with a boombox😞
@AriRotzz If that happened today, there could easily be a mob of 10,000 people on their self-percieved moral high horses from the internet stalking him and calling him a stalker or otherwise. Once everything is recorded, the possibility that your actions could either now or eventually through changes in social culture outside of your control years later be thought of as cringe or illegal, or even ruin your future career becomes a real threat. This will only be even worse as people give all their facial scans/data to companies that will eventually sell it back to the public... People don't really want to interact with each other in ways like that anymore, especially irl.
I've heard kids complain of not wanting to ever go outside because any ring doorbell or camera could just immortalize whatever stupid/cringe thing they did. Many people are crashing out over nothing nowadays because their lives are so good they have nothing left to complain about but tiniest possible remaining mole hills (being called a mean name online or seeing an opinion they disagree with). The culture in the USA has also normalized being offended on BEHALF of someone else. So it's a recipe for social disaster and isolation.
@X thx 4 the thoughts This wouldn't be a scenario if we didn't live in a society of mass surveillance. Police using flock cameras to track ex girlfriends, ice using ring cameras to track individuals under speculation, etc. It's truly outrageous that people don't feel comfortable sharing an unguarded aspect of their personality due to fear of being judged by thousands or millions of people. Being "clipped has actually done so much harm to people's lives, and jobs. what I means tho was where are the men what will take accountability and initiative for the ones they care for.
@AriRotzz Right here baby. 😎
@AriRotzz This !!! Bring back chivalry !
no acc, I just gave up lmao
no acc, I just gave up lmao
You have to be worth going crazy for in the first place.
I'm not saying that you aren't worth it but just looking at your page there is almost nothing for anyone to go off of or differentiate why you might be a perfect fit for that particular person looking at your page. If you are like that in real life too, then there's your answer. :P
A recurring pattern I have noticed in recent years is a lot of women when asked what they bring to the table in a relationship think "I am the table". (They have nothing to offer, other than to be a series of holes.)
Just like most women want a guy who is, mentally stable, good looking, strong, emotionally stoic but open and vulnerable, able to dominate but be affectionate, skilled, mature but funny, predictable but spontaneous, capable of handling the unknown and solving problems, makes 6 figures, etc.
Men are the same way, any decent guy with a brain should have many requirements. Some girls get caught up thinking that it's really only about being good looking.
But that only works when men are horny. Once they bust, they get a few minutes of clear headed thinking and in that time they will know if you are a bad long term partner or not. Once they are not horny, it doesn't matter if you are hot, if you have nothing else going for you and or negatives. Guys like a girl who is skilled/helpful too, especially in complementary ways to their weaknesses. Here are some questions a decent guy would probably ask in his mind. Can she be compassionate and caring but not overbearing to me and or our children? Is she loyal and honest? Can she cook a great and unique meal and save us money? Can she fix things and or be thrifty? Can she be reasonable and level headed when disagreements arise? Is she overly sensitive? Can she handle constructive criticism? Does she interpret help as negativity? Does she appreciate or notice my effort? Does she have a good sense of humor? Will she randomly crash out and chop my dick off if I say or do something slightly wrong? 🤪
Different guys care about different things these are just basically examples.
The more you align with what a guy is looking for the more they will chase after you. They need the information and proof though.
dating IS rough, ive been in quite a few relationships and yet i wouldnt really know how to put things into view or perspective, but alot of people know that dating is trial and error or however it goes. You try once and u may fail and when u do fail or if u do fail, you try again. Most of my issues came from meeting women online, dating them after hardly ever knowing them for a while and then failing within a month or two, the thing you gotta find is “what is my problem”, like what “patterns” are you finding within the people you date or hell even the things you do yourself and then ask yourself if your “willing” to change that or find something else. My problem was that especially in my high school years i was always finding people who were broken mentally, dressed alternative, and shared that same feeling with me and thats all it took for me, but the pattern i noticed was not only that but also i was going after clinically insane people who wouldnt care if they ruined ur life if u broke up with them and people you would have to be careful about what you say around them. things like that, i always felt my anxiety go up around them and if thats the same for you, thats not your person.
HOW I FOUND LOVE
So right now i have a beautiful loving girlfriend who i really think is the one for real who will stay for a long time and hopefully for life. After finding myself repeating the same pattern i decided to take a break for 6 months and that was all it took, during those 6 months however i did this theatre show in my university and i was rlly excited abt it! i got to play as kurt cobain in this one play abt nirvana and i got to flex my guitar skills, one day during rehearsals for around the first times, the play was split into four cours. of small play segments, this one girl came by and she was part of another play within this event, and so i saw her and i just couldn’t take my eyes off of her, i didnt wanna seem like a creep so i snuck in a few looks (eventually she told me she could tell i was looking at her… oh well) around that time as i was warming up to the group the people from her play i knew one of them and they said hi to me, then SHE saw and came to say hi to me and i was in my mind saying “oh shit wait shes actually saying hi to me uh what do i do”, so i ran off and ignored her :/
I felt stupid after that but then ONE DAY during tech rehearsals she was playing this one game guessing cards and stuff and i was like “oouuu i wanna play” and she was rlly excited that i wanted to play and she started talking to me there and i saw how her face lit up and i was just admiring that look on her face and she still does it to this day its adorable haha. before the show ended i managed to get her instagram and stuff and i wanted to do a movie with actors hopefully a short movie (still working on it lol) so i grabbed a bunch of actors including her and i started writing n producing, created a gc and we started texting in that gc and during rehearsals we would have them at my house in the garage and me n her and our group just started hanging n talking away and that gave birth to our friend group which is exactly what i needed in college. there were certaint times where after we would come back from hanging out with them we sat in her car for a couple of hours outside my house just talking and it felt really genuine, we talked about our issues, problems, funny stories, our opinions of eachother, and we honestly felt the same but we never did anything about it. It wasnt until mid june when she rlly took an interest in me and at first she didnt want to because of how she recently got out of a relationship but we both felt this connection and it was definetly something i never felt before and she felt the same way, so she started face timing me out of nowhere never knew why (i know why now) but i was like “ykw this is awesome i get to talk to her more” and she was telling me abt how shes hosting a pool party and how i should come, so the day came and i came over to her house for the pool party and it was awesome. I was having fun then i needed to pee so i asked her “hey do yk where the bathroom is in ur house?” and she said “yeah! just follow me!” so i went inside and went to the bathroom, then as i was gonna thank her she shut the door behind her in the restroom and now we were both in it, we looked at eachother with intent and we felt that force of connection, after that she said “do you wanna kiss me?” and i nodded, i asked if i can kiss her and she said “yes, you may” so we kissed and when i first kissed her it felt really magical and i felt really happy and connected with her, after that she left and said she will see me out there, then she started telling her closest friends abt me saying im “fine shyt” which is funny LOL. after that we planned a date! and on that date it went so well we went shopping in the mall bought stuff for eachother and we held hands! very much a win win, we got taco bell in the end and at that moment when we wanted to wait, we just knew we couldnt wait so it was time, that day we made it official and it was amazing and im still glad to be able to call her my girlfriend.
WHO YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR
look for someone that will understand and look at the differences and be able to talk them out without intense arguing or fighting. Dont be with someone who will give up after one argument, thats why relationships fail often because people want to find the perfect someone in the perfecf scenario, just LET IT HAPPEN NATURALLY, dont look at social media telling u bs abt finding ur person today or dating apps, dating apps work SOMETIMES but not all the time, its best to have a connection by befriending someone in person like how i did, if you really feel a connection with someone be honest, go up to them have a conversation and ask if you guys can be friends, dont be super duper upfront with ur intentions cause you will scare that person away, sometimes it could work but best not to risk that. starting conversations could be like how was their day what do they like whats their hobbies whats their major n stuff what do they wanna do as a career, theres many options out there and many opportunities to meet many people! Dont be upset if it doesnt work out! and CERTANTLY dont be an INCEL! or femcel! Dating is trial and error and if you arent willing to go through that rough patch its okay, its not for everyone and if your okay with that then thats good :)
People have become extremely self-centered and only care about their own half of the cake, you can clearly see it in these replies too. Love is about shared feelings that can be expressed in many different ways, it’s about deeply wanting one another. If the true feelings are there, all these questions become senseless. Honestly, I think the problem these days is that people have no idea who they really are. We are being stripped away from ourselves, and as a result, we don’t truly know what fits us anymore. There’s a lot of nonsense online—people thinking that their lust and desires for attention etc. are what make a man or a woman “lovable.” For them, The human mind is easy to fool, and they will remain forever blind. You can’t find love by thinking only about what you want for yourself, it’s always and only about the other person, and vice versa.
Also i think any sane person that can live alone is intelligent enough to understand when its not being loved so in that case, it simply has to end, there is no other excuse.
Dating is hard for everyone, but I'm surprised at how jaded everyone seems these days. Just have to put yourself out there and know that most people aren't a good fit. It's not the end of the world if they remove themselves from your life, they are doing you a favor. I'd say the ones to worry about are the toxic people that won't leave and are there to cause problems.
If you find friends and family that don't leave you on read, it'll help ease the pain of stupid humans ghosting you. People suck but you don't know what they're going though so that's also something to consider
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