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How did you guys make friends in university?

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I started last friday with an introduction day, but I was too shy to talk to someone so I still don't know anyone. Matter of fact I'm also living all alone in a new apartment in a city where idk anyone (at 17..)

I guess my question is just, how did you guys do it? How did you make friends in university or college or any type of school where you were completely new and where you didn't know anyone?

I know if I give it time I'll definitely make friends eventually, but I don't want to be alone :'(

Tips, tricks and stories are very welcome!

when I first started I also didn’t know anyone… I just kind of… started to approach the people that seemed nice. From my experience those other people are also searching for new friends. It’s kind of weird at the beginning but when it “clicks” with someone it gets way easier! just stick to socializing, being yourself and really listening to them when talking! gl <3

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@Kyrinwoo thankuuu!!! I get so nervous but honestly i think i forget that everyone else is probably nervous too.. 


@Thatgirlnextdoor

give them hell queen!

Don't do the mistake of making friends on day one, read the room and people around you for a week, just observe, then try to approach people with common interests or hobbies, or maybe same major

I dont know if I can be of much help since im extremely introverted and socially anxious lol but that means I get you cuz I've been aloooone many times qwq

I usually dont try to talk to people on the first days. Unless there's an specific person that really caught my attention and seems to have similar interests as me and is alone.


I dont know if ur an anxious person and thats the reason ur having a hard time meeting people, but if so, heres what I do as an anxious person:

Like the previous person said, I like to read the room first. When its time to approach i try to fake some confidence (fake it till u make it type shit) and act cool and chill B) and embodying this "persona" (which is really just the confident version of me) helps decreasing my anxiety a lot lol even if I dont feel confident at all.

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It just happens naturally. You have to be in the environment when attention isn't dedicated to the professor.
Showing up early to class and asking questions to your classmates and staying after class if anyone hangs around.
Also going to a 3rd space kind of area in campus hidden away somewhere can make a lot of friends.

Most of my current engineering friends were from a secret room hidden in an engineering building I had walked by at just the right time and discovered was kind of this laisse-faire communal space with 3D printers (very new at the time), research, and other stuff. 95% of the engineering students didn't know about it.

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