Am i too woke??? (sexual assult mentioned!)

i think im getting a bit too woke. i have this cousin that i talk to, who btw is the WHITEST dude ik btw he is like a grown ass man too (18), he once said the n word and when i confronted him he said "My friend who is black gave me a free pass,''. WHAT.. also i get the biggest ick when someone says they separate the artist from their work. for example, melanie martinez who has gotten tons of sexual assult aligations and yet they still listen to her music and buy cds ect. like im all for separaiting the work from the artist but listen to reuploads??! anyway ty for reading! xoxo💕