# blog 12 // school tips from a college freshman

hello everyone ⸜( ´ ꒳ ` )⸝ i'm a college freshman, so obviously ik a lot about how to survive school. i'm seeing a lot of nervous people posting about it, and since it's back to school season, here's some tips/rules to go by in case you need help making friends or basic surviving!! (˵ •̀ ᴗ - ˵ )

1) choose your friends wisely. 

(for how to make friends, see #7). at the beginning of the school year, friendships are bound to change. if you're friends w/people you know are bad for you, take the opportunity and get to know people in your new classes! don't stay w/annoying, rude, mean, or two-faced people. you'll regret it later on! ∘ ∘ ∘ ( °ヮ° ) ?

2) lock in with your grades!!

trust me... don't fall behind at the beginning of the year, especially if you have end of year tests! make a study plan or something girl idk

3) stuff you should pack...

DEODORANT. it's saved me on multiple occasions (i sweat A LOT & live in a hot place.), personal care stuff (my backup mascara and tissues were so helpful), small things like gum & hair ties, and don't forget pads/tampons if you use them. also, A SNACK!!! if you can ofc, pack smth small like a fruit or some chips... ₍^. .^₎⟆ i get hungry sooo often at school idk why. and stomach growling can make stuff awkward FAST.

5) follow friend code. 

be. a. good. friend. the amount of times i've seen friendships fail over stuff that should be obvious such as "don't date your best friend's ex!" or "don't make friends with people that talk bad about your friends!" is... way too many. get your priorities straight & then follow them! (ㅎ.ㅎ) the last thing you wanna do is hurt others. you also get a reputation for being a bad friend, which has personally stopped me from getting close to certain people. 

6) on the opposite side of that... if people are mean, be mean back. 

not to your friends who might be having a bad day, i mean to bullies yk? you'll need to learn to stand up for yourself eventually, and you won't learn by just "ignoring" the mean people. ˙𐃷˙

7) ways to make friends during the first days: 

offer them gum. ask their schedule. compliment their outfit, hair, or accessories. smile at others & look approachable. don't be afraid to talk to others, worst case scenario you just don't end up clicking! ☆⌒(ゝ。∂) look for people who you think look friendly or cool, but don't forget about the shy people! if they're shy, chances are they also are in need of a friend (just like you). 

8) DON'T date the person everyone's warning you about!

no, you can't fix them. yes, whatever they're saying is true. if the grades don't touch, neither should you. etc etc. respect yourself and don't date someone who treats you bad. it's that simple. a friend who was desperate to date ended up in an evil 4 year long situationship cheating on-and-off type thing, that she has yet to escape. do YOU want that? no. on the flip side, don't be evil!! pity dating is bad. it'll only hurt both of you in the end. if you're a cheater, then uhhhh you prob got worse problems :/

9) romanticize absolutely EVERYTHING. 

you're a loser with no friends? congrats! ദ്ദി(ᵔᗜᵔ) you're losercore aesthetic falltok pinterest twilight loner now. you're tired of studying so hard? congrats! you're a studytok rory gilmore downtown girl aesthetic locked in person now. 

10) go to those dumb school events.

football games? go to at LEAST one. hoco/prom? go even if you don't have a date! club meetings? show up, you might end up really liking it. sports? yeah me neither dude idk about that one...

11) BE YOURSELF!! BE AUTHENTIC!! LOCK IN!!

you don't wanna look back at how you've acted and feel like that wasn't really you. wear what you want, listen to what you want, and do what you want! ◝(ᵔᗜᵔ)◜ don't worry about impressing others, the people who want to be around your true self are the people you want to attract. 

i hope these tips helped you <3 have a good day!