No cuz GENUINLY whats up with cis straight teenage boys, why are they ALL the same, i don’t like stereotyping but like the boys at me school are insufferable because they are ALL the same like, it’s ok to have a personality no one will hurt you for liking silly things, I GENUINLY have sympathy for them cuz like it’s js society forcing them to have specific interests and that’s all, teenage boyhood is so sad to me.
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I think there's a contradiction in what you're saying, because you're criticizing these boys for being victims of gender stereotypes while simultaneously judging them through those very same stereotypes. You're assuming that all straight teenage boys are the same, and I imagine you'd be pretty offended if someone did exactly the same thing to gay people.
And I'll even give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that when you say they're "all the same", you mean they share stereotypical behaviours, interests, or ways of expressing themselves. But even then, I think you're being rather superficial by reducing someone's personality to how they dress, how they talk, or what hobbies they happen to display on the surface.
Just because twenty boys share an aesthetic, listen to the same music, play the same video games, or have similar conversations doesn't mean they're twenty interchangeable people. If you actually gave them the opportunity to get to know them individually, you'd probably find twenty people with completely different reactions, feelings, experiences, concerns, and ways of thinking.
The problem is that you don't seem particularly interested in getting to know that side of them in the first place, because you've already decided who they are.
It's like saying all nerds are the same because they watch anime, play video games, or share certain interests. I can have friends who enjoy exactly the same things I do and still have practically nothing in common with them as people.
You can criticize the models of masculinity that society imposes on teenage boys without turning every boy who superficially fits those expectations into the same person. In fact, doing so is reproducing precisely the kind of prejudice you're claiming to be concerned about.
And what if there were a gay boy who behaved exactly like the boys you're describing? Would you even notice? You'd probably lump him in with the rest and dismiss him as just another "basic straight boy". Isn't that homophobic too? You're essentially assuming that gay people cannot conform to conventional standards, interests, or behaviours, and that being gay somehow automatically makes someone different from the stereotypical teenage boy.
victorisavampire
it's the patriarchal socialization put upon us by the government to make us all act the same. i feel like cis boys dont push against it because of the fact that it's covered up by everyone being able to make friends with everyone else if everyone is the same. why be unique when u can have social status, yk? i feel bad for them but a fair amount of cis boys ik are kinda alternative at least in smaller ways, but way less diverse than what i see in cis girls because its more socially acceptable for them to be free with their interests due to being the more 'emotional' gender already. this might not make sense but i agree.