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1 month ago (edited) Report 👍 1

I’m really sorry you’ve been feeling this way. Reading this honestly made me feel sad because it sounds exhausting to constantly feel like you’re trying to keep connections alive while everyone else seems to move on so easily.

I don’t think the fact that friendships fade means there is something wrong with you. Unfortunately, a lot of friendships during school years are affected by circumstances: different classes, different schedules, people getting new interests, and everyone being busy with their own lives. Sometimes people drift apart without anyone being the “problem”.

About the group chat situation… I completely understand why that hurts. Feeling like your messages are ignored while everyone else gets responses can make you feel invisible. But please remember that a quiet response doesn’t always mean people don’t care about you. Group dynamics can be weird, and sometimes people don’t realize how their actions make someone else feel.

That being said, you also deserve friendships where you don’t have to constantly fight for a place. The right people won’t make you feel like you’re annoying just because you want to participate in a conversation.

If you want to improve anything, maybe focus less on trying to make everyone like you and more on finding people who naturally match your energy. Try talking one-on-one with someone you enjoy instead of only relying on groups, because sometimes deeper friendships are built in smaller spaces.

And please don’t forget this: the fact that you’re worried about being a good friend already says a lot about you. People who truly don’t care usually don’t stop to ask themselves if they are hurting others. I hope you find people who make you feel wanted, not tolerated. （＾◡＾）♡

1 month ago (edited) Report 👍 1

Honestly if they've been treating you that way, it's probably better to let those kinds of friendships stray away, because it's so incredibly draining to be around a group of people who don't even want to put in the effort as much as you do to them, speaking from experience, bc if ppl can't acknowledge the effort you put into your friendships then it's probably better for yourself to not be around them bc it's just not worth it. And bro I hope you find irl friends that will stick to you man.