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2 weeks ago Report 👍

I believe the main cause for this is socialization, but I do acknowledge that testosterone *does* often change the experience of sexual arousal, and porn is made to specifically take advantage of the way men experience it. Porn can be consumed by anyone of any gender, but that potential to "think with your dick" does seem to develop in trans men post-transition, which makes it seem like the experience is somewhat hormonal. I did see this happen LIVE with my ex, and many people online seem to have similar experiences. This doesn't mean men inherently think with their dick, but that their sexual arousal operates a way that makes it easy.

We live in a society that SPECIFICALLY panders to that "second brain" in guys pants, it doesn't give power to the women in sexual dynamics at all. Women are constantly sold the lie that objectification is empowerment, when all it really does is reinforce a patriarchal power dynamic. I think the best thing we can do to combat this is to confront these behaviors without hesitation, while still operating out of empathy. We need to make a world where this isn't normalized, I don't think it's natural and everyone suffers for as long as we continue to live like this. Even men are unhappy with the structure they've built, they just don't realize it's the reason they feel so empty. Men need to be taught the importance of connection and vulnerability, instead of being expected to fill their emptiness with lust and pornography.
Women have largely been taught to prioritize love and vulnerability, and we've seen the fulfillment that comes with that, though I believe this has been changing in recent years. We're seeing a rise in objectifying women who disregard people for the sake of lust, in a similar fashion to how so many men do, and I think this shows how socialization is the main contributor to this phenomenon. I think pornography has been pandering to the ways men experience arousal, but now that we're seeing more porn target women and smut becoming mainstream, we can see how easy it is for women to also form objectifying and/or degenerate sexual behaviors.

1 month ago Report 👍 2

i will say that is is extremely normalized in majority of cultures for men to “think with their dicks” and it’s really sad. like the saying “boys will be boys” is promoting the behaviors of parents and peers disregarding alarming behavior because it’s “just how a boy acts”

one of the reasons i broke up with my ex was because he seriously told me he thinks with his dick #stillavirginandimokaywithit

1 month ago Report 👍 1

I get off topic so easy (even if it was still kinda on topic but not what i was mainly going to talk about) HELP