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She might have known about it but still, kids at that age donât understand how serious it is. And how did she start with this? Who told her that stuff and how? Iâd say she could have been abused by someone else too, and normalized the situation, that is common, but it can be that she saw something that she didnât understand and wanted to try it? Kids donât know what they do is wrong or right, they donât understand how wrong it is, they donât understand the consequences of their actions, not really. And how was she raised? And maybe you did understand that at your age but not every kid does. Itâs a really complicated situation because how can you really blame someone here? Kids arenât born knowing everything, but it looks like some parents do think that. That's why I think sexual education is so important, kids arenât stupid. You need to make the kid understand what can happen and that they have your trust etc. And I think this is very common because parents treat kids like theyâre stupid? I donât think my mom ever said anything about that, or tried to explain it to me, we canât just understand what is right or wrong out of nowhere. And stuff like consent arenât things that kids understand, they donât understand if what theyâre doing is wrong or if the other one is uncomfortable or something. And kids donât understand emotions that well, if you were uncomfortable and you didnât say anything or do anything about it then maybe she would have stopped, or maybe she thought that it was as bad as stealing a toy from someone, that it wasnât that bad, and did it anyway. And maybe she did know that it was bad, but not how bad, not understanding completely what she was doing. Itâs very complex, and you are the only one that can understand what happened and how she was or what she said or maybe her behavior overall? Was she weird in another way? Kids that are abused act differently or maybe saying and doing sexual stuff like itâs a game. I remember that I was playing with some kids in the school, I was maybe like 6-7 years old and I saw a guy in my class grinding against a girl that was in our class too, I didnât do anything I didnât know what was happening and I think they didnât really know that either. The girl was laughing and he was laughing too I think. I do remember I was very âinnocentâ because some of them did very sexual stuff and I didnât understand what they meant. But itâs sad that boys are expected to be sexual, theyâre not. But parents donât really mind it because theyâre a boy, itâs a boy thing. Itâs not. |
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um yea that was really weird but it makes me think the same thing happened to her, a 9 year old shouldnt even know what making out is. it definitely seems like the cycle of abuse, and if you can maybe bring it up to a different family member.. Yeah, I will definitely sometime soon. The thing is, I'm pretty sure she just saw it off of a TV show, that's what I remember. For context, kids in the UK grow up mentally a lot quicker than other places. On your profile, I can see your from the US, so generally the maturity of a 9 year old would be like 2 years older mentally, at least from my experience, and that's certainly the case specifically with the midlands by Freya_Fentanyl; ; Report |
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I'm not too close to her anymore, and I'm not aware of any abuse towards her, but there could have been. My memory is really fuzzy on the situation, since it happened awhile ago. Personally, due to the nature of how my family is raised and how kids in the UK are raised in general, I'm pretty sure she just saw it on some TV show (like a pre teen one, some of them have kissing scenes in it and stuff) and wanted to try it out. She didn't seem to act strange other than that at all, but again my memory isn't very clear about it. I'm pretty sure the only reason I went along with it was because it seemed like fun. But it definitely progressed with watching youtube videos about it together.Â
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