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2 months ago (edited) Report 👍 1

1. I don't know of anyone who has not cringed at themselves in hindsight, honestly if they haven't done that multiple times and changed then they almost always aren't growing/maturing. 

2. The only people I know that hate those who are trying to better themselves are usually losers, haters are almost never doing better than you. (Although I see a lot of people confusing haters with constructive critics!) I think part of it is a sour grapes mentality. They are too lazy to put the work in, or feel that the ideal is so far away from where they are that rather than being a goal it becomes the enemy. Seeing people trying is a reminder that they not only failed at achieving that success but they even failed at trying which is even more pitiful. I only really hang around other successful people and only less than a small handful out of maybe 100 are like that. But I've noticed that not being the case with unsuccessful people. So I think those types of people feel pain from other's success and they lash out. (That being said, sometimes people just lack the genetics to achieve certain things that they would otherwise desire and it's really not for lack of trying.)

3. Labels are tools, but I see them more often used as walls and weapons in modernity. It's a shame, but there is something primal about labels and being different that can't be psychologically ignored. You'd probably really appreciate this experiment! :)

https://www.thoughtco.com/robbers-cave-experiment-4774987

^This also applies on nation-state levels, not just boy's summer camp levels. ;)

2 months ago (edited) Report 👍 1

I think people kind of just are the performance of who they want to be. I can't really think of another way to change without the first day feeling like you're just pretending. 

When I think about who I am I don't have much control over it except the performance.

I am my genetics and hormone levels and mental health. I am what I was taught by my parents and friends and movies. 

But then that's all just stuff that happened to me, I had no choice, I just happen to be like this.

And if I do make a choice to change the way I am, yeah that's a performance. 

Anyway. 

I also think the bad experiences and hard things in my life are the most important. So I try not to be afraid of anything, will give myself away and be willing to get hurt, because when it goes badly I know that will be one of my valuable important stories in a few months and I wouldn't take it back. 

And sometimes I win!

2 months ago (edited) Report 👍 3

Love how you mentioned the "commiting to one aesthetic" situation, it really gets frustrating when you can't even see what truly resonates with yourself. <3