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32 minutes ago Report 👍

Ah, I completely understand. The art of making new friends is honestly a really difficult one to master. I think what helps me the most is trying to find little things you have in common, because then you can move past the usual “hello/how are you?” exchange and get to the more interesting conversations faster.

It can also help to have a few questions or topics related to your own interests ready. If you like reading and they like reading, ask them for recommendations (and even if they don't like reading traditional books maybe they'll recommend manga!). The same goes for food, movies, shows, games, hobbies, or anything else you both enjoy. Sometimes the other person just need a little opening for the conversation to start flowing too.(´｡• ᵕ •｡`)

Another thing you can do is just be honest and say something like, “hey, I have no idea what we could talk about haha.” Sometimes that makes things easier because the other person might laugh and tell you something about their day or bring up a random topic.

I get anxious doing this stuff too, but something that helps me is remembering that this is the internet. It’s an anonymous space; most people don’t know me, and they probably aren’t judging me nearly as much as my brain tells me they are. (˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶)

Also, I loved the part about people-watching. I’ve done that before, and there’s something really comforting about it. Just sitting somewhere and watching people go about their lives feels strangely peaceful.(Although it manages to make me feel anxious sometimes…)

1 hour ago Report 👍 1

I get that, especially since the whole how are you, what are you doing kind of stuff is really mundane, and its hard to do that without a sentence topic. I love finding people I have something in common with so I can just yap about that exclusively with them till we find other things to chat about. Anyway! from one person with anxiety to another, I'm rooting 4 U.