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I feel bad for all these people that didn't read what you said at all and just put you on blast lol.

I find it VERY relatable!

People need to learn to listen and try to understand someone else's point of view for 5 minutes before spending an hour writing about how bad and wrong the thing they didn't even read is.

i feel like what’s actually happening here is the issue of ‘adultifying’ teens too much. your brain doesn’t finish developing until you’re what, 25? when that highschool kid makes the decision to sleep with someone in their 30s it’s probably not the most rational one. 17 to 20 pushes it, but 18 and 30 is fucking diabolical and you accepting that is genuinely self destructive, and im saying this as someone who did have romantic intentions once for someone far older than me

I tink da reason y ppl label 16 x 21 n etc as pedophilia is bc teens r usually naive n dont understand da wrongs of dating a adult, I am not guilting dem but just a possible explanation to y.

Facts!

I agree with you that not every age gap should be labeled pedophilia but you lost me at 18 and 30.

There is no reasonable world where a 30yo should be pursuing an 18yo. You have to ask how that even happens. Where do they meet? What do they genuinely connect over? They’re in completely different social spaces and mental stages.

At 18, you’re finishing high school, starting college, maybe taking a gap year. At 30, you’re working full-time, paying bills, managing adult responsibilities, maybe going out on weekends if you have the energy. The lifestyles don’t overlap in a natural or healthy way. You can’t realistically “run into” 18yos casually at 30 UNLESS you’re actively seeking them out or not participating in age appropriate spaces yourself.

And I don’t agree that calling out a 30×18 relationship somehow downplays real child sexual abuse. When I read 30×18, it’s disturbing. But when I read 6×41, it’s horrifying. Nobody is desensitized to that unless something is seriously wrong with them. There is no framing where a 41yo with a 6yo could ever seem normal or debatable to a healthy person.

So no, recognizing that 18×30 is predatory doesn’t erase how DEEPLY SICK 6×41 is. Both can be wrong for different reasons, and acknowledging one doesn’t minimize the other

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