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Maxine

54 minutes ago Report

I don't think this is edgy at all! Honestly I wish people wouldn't see so many complex mental struggles that way, it's happened to me a handful of times, it's frustrating. Especially if you make it sound personal and important, instead of funny or lighthearted.

I found myself relating to this quite a lot, even though the ways we struggle to socialize seem fairly different. I get jealous of my friends who are naturally social, they don't analyze everything they did wrong to learn and fix all their mistakes. I've had to do that for so many years just to get a decent grip on socialization, but I still feel like an outsider. No amount of "just be true to yourself!" can change the social imbalance between and most other people. I'm not going to give up, far from it, but I also know I'm not built to be digestible
I really wish people prioritized curiosity and discussion over the social energy someone exudes. Communicating isn't just about having fun, and I mean, it can be fun, but that only one small reason to socialize. It goes so much deeper than that, and I feel bad for those who don't understand that.

yeah man, you get it. i really like hearing your insight too, since like you said our individual experiences are different, but there’s still a way to connect over it. i wasn’t expecting any sort of engagement or response to this post, at least i couldn’t really figure out or anticipate how anyone would respond to it outside of trolling, but this was definitely a pleasant surprise.

i completely agree with you. the immediate jump to referring to things like this as edgy or cringe if people articulate their words in a way that is “socially acceptable” or dumbed down to basically being a joke is so stigmatising. people deserve to be able to express themselves without having to belittle themselves in order to not make other people uncomfortable; because that’s why people respond the way they do to serious expression. they’re uncomfortable, so they’re trying to push that discomfort out of what they perceive as their own space by being shitty about it. it’s giving skunk spray.

the best sorts of discussions you can have, at least in my opinion, are, again like you said, talks revolving around curiosity and connection. i really do like what you said there. it feels like people prioritise fun and excitement over actually building connections, and when they do that, they’re not actually making connections at all. that’s part of why being the way (if i can assume) we both are can be so isolating, i think. we go in trying to make connections on a personal level, but people don’t usually want to open themselves up to going beyond a surface level of basic interests, attributes, traits, and in some cases aesthetic. i feel like that’s what contributes so much to this whole echo-chamber epidemic i’ve been kind of noticing in people of our generation.

by TURBOVIRGIN69; 46 minutes ago; Report

I'm glad you appreciated what I had to say, I always worry I'll project my own experiences too much lol. But hearing people be honest and open this way is so refreshing, especially in a society obsessed with expectations and trends, I wanna express how important it is that people share about themselves.

And yeah, that's exactly it. I always see people refer to something as cringe or edgy to dismiss it, like it's not real or shouldn't exist. It's really irritating when people portray your feelings as an act or as something to be ashamed of. It just reeks of not being able to accept people different from them, and a disregard of others experiences takes so much learning and wisdom away from them too... Not to mention limits connections with people severely. They're actively working against themselves and feeling proud and powerful for it, it's embarrassing to watch.

You took the words out of my brain lol. So many people prefer surface level relationships that die the moment they leave the event, and it's not that these dynamics can't exist, but to actively prefer that and sabotage any potential long-term connections is just horrible for you and everyone else. So many people feel empty and dissatisfied for this reason, but aren't willing to see that this is why. And it truly is difficult to make any connections as someone looking for something genuine, it feels nobody else wants that at all. I'm lucky to have found some people willing to have genuine friendships, but it's taken me so many years to find anyone like this.

by Maxine; 5 minutes ago; Report