crocodile tears - nonsense ramblings about an ex friend of mine.

around two years ago (july 12 to be exact) i cut off some ex friends of mine and i tend to celebrate the date, because it did a lot of good for my emotional and mental wellbeing. they were shitty people overall- one would yell at me and play the victim if i defended myself, one had a habit of treating me poorly and guilt trip me when i brought up being uncomfortable with it, and the third would enable this behavior no matter how much he claimed he didnt agree with it.

i wanted to talk about that second guy, because im sure we've all had to deal with someone like that. essentially his playbook was to show blatant favoritism to friends 0ne and three by randomly ghosting me while acting like nothing was up in front of them, claim he'd totally work on it and then switch strategies to constantly being a jerk to me under the guise of it being a "joke," pretend i never said i was uncomfortable with it, and then proceed to try and guilt trip me when he got called out. 

he was also caught stalking my old tiktok pages for upwards 15 months or so, and knowing damn well why i was better off without him, tried to guilt trip me into reaching back out to him so that things could go back to "normal" between us... only to talk shit about me later as soon as he knew i wasnt having it. almost as if he doesnt actually want to patch things up- he wants to have someone to treat like shit again.

the lesson of this post is: some people dont actually want things to go back to normal. they want to be able to treat you as a doormat. their way of "going back to normal" doesnt actually mean being on good terms again- it means being able to do the same things as before without consequences. they play sad about it, pretend they want to be on good terms again, but in reality those good terms mean the same thing as before: letting them hurt you- or hurt other people- but back when you were "fun" and never said anything about it... just like old times, right? 

good thing im too smart to fall for that.