okay so like maybe im really stupid and dense when it comes to all things relating to romance, but what the actual fuck is flirting?
no matter how much i try i just cant seem to understand the concept of flirting for some reason,,,, and what i mean by that is WHAT THE FUCK IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GIVING OUT COMPLIMENTS TO PEOPLE VERSUS FLIRTING WITH THEM???
to me, i just cant seem to get the hint?? like to me i see stuff like that as compliments (like in a platonic way) ive had friends try to explain to me the difference between complimenting and flirting but by the end both of us just end up confused
i try to be a really approachable and easy-going person if that makes sense. we as people change constantly and i want to work towards being someone like that because i admire those who have that kind of personality!!
therefore, if i see a trait someone has that i thinks super cool and awesome sauce (ex: kind personality, great fashion sense, etc.) i WILL compliment them on that because im super joyous and jolly (i promise)
when i say said compliments, obviously i want to sound energetic and stuff because i dont want to come off as ingenuine/mocking so often times i sound somewhat like:
OH MY GOSH I LOVE YOUR ______!!!!! ITS SO CUTSIE
DUDE ILY YOURE SO ______!!!!!
maybe im dense or something but thats clearly not flirting right???? i dont know what im doing wrong but somehow SOMETIMES when i talk to people they mistake my compliment giving as flirting.
like that happening once or twice i can brush off as a coincidence - BUT THAT SHITS HAPPENED WAYYY TOO MANY TIMES like i clearly gotta be doing something wrong unintentionally and I DONT KNOW WHAT IT IS SO I CANT FUCKING FIX IT
i hate it so much because it seems like i just cant understand it. even after asking friends and searching it up i just dont understand the difference between compliments and flirting and its actually driving me INSANE
it genuinely hurts to think that i might make people feel uncomfortable because they mistake the way i treat them as flirting.
IN ADDITION TO THAT WHOLE RAMBLING SESSION now thats got me wondering if anyones flirted with me before and i just failed to take the hint????
im gonna say this right now i dont think anyone would want to flirt with me - my ego is like really small and at this rate i lowkey just have really bad self-esteem issues but in todays day and age who doesnt at this point??
the REASON im questioning that is because if im so fucking dense that i cant take the hint someone likes me HOW WILL I EVER MEET THE LOVE OF MY LIFE????
like yeah i just spent the entire post rambling how i dont understand a basic aspect in romance but I SWEAR I REALLY DO WISH TO FALL INLOVE WITH SOMEONE ONE DAY I REALLY WANT TO LOVE SOMEONE ROMANTICALLYY!! ok yes im pathetic but so what
i guess my confusion is kind of understandble considering i have basically zero romantic experience
BUT IF I CANT EVEN RECOGNISE WHAT FLIRTING IS DOES THAT MEAN IM JUST GOING TO BE SINGLE FOREVER AND DIE IN A HOLE ALL ALONE??
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N00DL3-C4T
I think the confusion is just because of how non-genuine the culture around us is. Like nice vs kind.
Like, I was raised around a lot of very nice but superficial people, so that mindset was very normalized. My family is super genuine tho, so we always gave out very genuine or specific compliments. Now, if I'm talking to a classmate and I compliment them, they mistake it for flirting because I try to be specific and enthusiastic.
Your only crime here may be that you're too kind, lol
alexanderspoison
if you want to seem less like youre flirting be more chill i guess? like just 'dudee your hair is really cool i like it a lot' or whatever
i mean some people take anything as flirting even when it isnt so you cant really fix it. i think the way you compliment people is fine and obviously not flirting but some people just cant tell
and as for the future love of your life i sure hope they'd be clear with you about that kind of thing
glamourkillz :3
why don't u just date one of ur fans Alvin