vitcmblaming women is stupid

ok so recently i saw  post here on friendrewind it was a girl RIGHTFULLY complaining about some men making gross comments on her body. people in the comments were vitcmblaming??? first of all id like to say even if someone is showing parts of their body it doesnt warrant those types of perveted comments. second of all. its not about the clothes its about the person. im also goth AND a hijab and men will still stare at me for prolonged amounts of time..and i just so grossed out it makes me wanna throw up (plus im a minor they're a grown adult hello??)  also i thought we got over this 'what was she wearing?' bullshit how many times does it have to be said? why are we blaming the vitcm  instead of the perpetrator? why do women always have to adjust just so people dont violate us? when will be seen as fully human? i honestly dont know. its just so tiring..