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how to make friends ?

ย i have no idea how to make friends online or irl ๐Ÿ’” how do i seem less awkward and shy ?? I've had this label on me for the past 3 years bc i never talk to anyone and everyone thinks im weird . like i have friends but it's only a trio and i can already tell i won't have any classes w them so now i really do have to find new friends

i think im more scared of being judged and awkward . whenever someone idk talks to me i spend more time trying to decide if they're fat or ugly tbh , and i think im scared of someone doing that to me . no one has the same interests as me either , like no one listens to music i do or watch the things i watch or has twitter . who tf doesn't have twitter . and it'll b the same ngas who will call my music taste trash then listen to kali uchis or latto ๐Ÿ˜ญ i need another me this yearย 

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I struggle aswell to make friends, so I totally understand where you are coming from!ย 


Online: Go into spaces where people have the same interest as you. Look up hashtags or fan accounts focused around the interest that you have. Interact with people in the comments and talk to people. Eventually you will make connections and it will 100% help making online friends.

IRL: I recommend having your friends or partner if you have one, introduce you to people. Have them introduce you to their friends and be willing to be open and receptive to what they say. It's okay to mess up a little bit in a conversation, I promise most people do not care and will honestly forget about it. Be willing to talk about your interest, be willing to be open about your interest, be open to your interest and what you have to say.ย 

Overall: Don't overthink too much. Use your personality as a strength. Are you really good at being kind? Flex that muscle and do kind things for people. Are you really good at making people laugh? Make a joke in a crowd. Flexing your muscles of personality and using your traits to your benefit is a great way to make connection. Example of how this has worked for me: my boyfriend has introduced me to his sister, who introduced me to her friend, I'm not very good at social interaction (thank you autism) however I am someone who loves to give advice. So I connected with her friend by giving advice about a situation he was in. This created a connection between me and him and we found out we had a lot more in common than I thought originally.ย 

It takes time to get used to flexing those muscles, and it takes time getting comfortable flexing those muscles. I promise that it helps and it's a great way to make connections online and IRL.ย 

I wish you luck on making friends! I believe in you!!!

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I lwk want an online friendd



me to guys me toย 

by iAmMollie; ; Report

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i just act a personality that i genuinely think its cool in that moment, then after a few days i start being myself more, but i kinda keep something from that personality every time, itโ€™s not a bad thing, acting its the best strategy imo.

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ok imma give u a 1:1 tutorial like I did on another blog

step 1: locate person


step 2: friend request them


step 3: talk to them (or wait if they do)


step 4: see if it works


rinse and repeat until you find cool friends


tip: if you suck at starting convos, look at their profile and spot something that they like, or ask them something about themselves


honorable mentions: browse and blogs work too


also the awkward part is off

DUDE YOU'RE ON THE INTERNET

NOBODY LOOKING YOU IN THE EYES



but what if they leave me on read or never respond ๐Ÿ™

by iAmMollie; ; Report

MOVE ON!

IT'S THE INTERNET, NOBODY IS FORCED TO REPLY TO YOU

BUT YOU CAN FIND OTHER INTERESTED PEOPLE

by blvkmoon; ; Report