I've been having a real hard time being social for some years now. Mostly online, I am so good at talking to people irl (i swear), but when it comes to online conversation I used to get so stressed out about it I'd actively run away from interactions.
I've been practicing. Sky is a wonderful game for that. Talking to strangers, doing small talks, I've become very good at it (in that context). It's easier when there's no information and you have to ask questions to get to know the person, rather than have everything given to you on a silver platter thanks to social media profile (which I love filling, love reading, and yet, confused as to how to use that information).
So now I'm good at every going towards people in Sky! My second step was Minecraft servers. Which I succeeded in, last year. I say succeeded because I was able to log in very often and didn't run away from people, but honestly I was also not good at all at going towards people either. As in, I don't think I was able to go towards anyone. At all. So okay, let's all be honest, it was a failure.
My other challenge was to go in a MMORPG. I've always been scared of those, like, doing anything? And there's other players? And they can all see you do the thing? ("Hey that's called social anxiety" I know! Why does it only activate online though???) So I managed to do that and not talk to anyone because I am that good at Doing Things unnoticed 😎
Well, to make friends, it's so much harder than that. Sky is fun, and I do have friends there, but it's only on Sky and we don't take that friendship outside of the game. And otherwise, I'm still not good at talking to people. I'm not sure what to do. Keep practicing, sure, but I wish it was something I could study. At least I'd know what I'm doing right or wrong
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blvkmoon
your online conversations suck but the real ones are great...
HOW IS THAT EVEN POSSIBLE?
I'm really good at masking! I just copy the person's speech pattern and vibe and it works out great! 0:D
I can't do it online because I can't hear like any tone or vibes from the person :') I have to "be myself" and oh my god isn't that a disaster lmao
by angelichael; ; Report
"copy the person's speech pattern and vibe" deadass you're like a social butterfly taskmaster
by blvkmoon; ; Report
and what's so hard about being yourself?just curious
by blvkmoon; ; Report
How to explain it. By always talking to people by acting like them, I never really have to act as myself. So I don't know how to be myself. Like, I am very good at acting (real life conversations) by following a script and knowing my character, but you put me in an improv sketch (online socialization) where I have to come up with everything on the spot, including a character which is myself, and that's a disaster
by angelichael; ; Report
it's uhh... kinda sad that you don't have your way of communicating and rely on copying others?
like I get it, taskmaster is cool asf, but sometimes you cannot copy everyone and be yourself
like, he refuses to copy moon knight's style cuz it's his own thing
what I wanna say is that people wanna connect with YOU, not a parrot who copies the other
by blvkmoon; ; Report
Oh yeah I'm not happy about my socialization skills. It's useful for customer service but I don't want that to be my entire life. I'd love to make friends with my genuine self! But I have yet to, yknow, figure out how because my brain freezes after asking "how are you" and "how was your day". I'm amazed at people carrying conversations, how do you come up with all that...
by angelichael; ; Report