(I promise im not an Incel) This is a problem i've been having since high school. back in elementary and middle school I didn't care for relationships and never bothered but when I got into high school I came to the realization that idk how to even talk to girls. I could never muster up the courage to talk because I was afraid that she might reject me or worse, make fun of me in front of people. only one girl came up to me and wanted to be with me and I would have gone with her if it wasn't for the fact that she was known for getting together with guys and dumping them in a month, so I rejected her. It's been 2 years since I graduated and I don't even know where nor how to talk to women, I don't have a car because i've only have had my first job for 6 months and don't have enough saved. And I don't wanna do digital dates because i've heard thats a nightmare. do y'all have any tips for talking to women?
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Fallen Rewind
First of all, I wouldn't use that pfp. Secondly, don't take advice from women they will always lead you astray. What they say isn't based on what really works or what they're actually attracted to. Being friends with a girl to try and get with her is disingenuous, creepy, and almost never works. If you have other intentions, you should just state them up front or treat her like anyone else (especially if she's beautiful). It's better to get rejected right away than carry on some long term charade.
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guy to guy rn you kind of have to reform your mindset. as long as you treat everyone nice, just treat women like you would any other guy. have friends among women. given you’re not in school id just say start at like a job. be casual and completely non romantic. don’t approach it with fear
BootlegFriend
As a woman, women really aren't these ~complex creatures~ people really like to make them out to be. They are just, humans. The way I found myself with my husband was pretty simple, we had mutual friends and shared interests, we started as friends for several years and then became something more.
My advice is to prioritize platonic bonds with women before romantic ones, it'll help with your anxieties and odds are you'll find someone naturally. You WILL be rejected, sometimes harshly, but that's ok. If you run from being hurt you will never live at all.
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The best advice I can give you is to do a little bit of rejection therapy. There’s a trend on the Internet of people asking random people questions, expecting to be told no, and it helps them realize that being told no isn’t the worst thing in the world. It’s okay to reach out to a girl, ask her for her number (or offer yours so she feels comfortable), and potentially have her say no to you. It will feel shitty in the moment, but nobody gets physically hurt :)
JTB1107 XD
you have to be approachable, its not really confidence that matters but courage.
I have to disagree with this just a little bit. Showing some confidence does matter. But you do have to find a balance to not appear cocky and annoying.
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confidence means nothing these days,
by JTB1107 XD; ; Report
As a woman, I’m telling you that it does🤣
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As a 18 year old man whos in the same age bracket as this guy, it really doesn't matter anymore.
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Okay!!👍💀
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Yeah its pretty rough these days
by JTB1107 XD; ; Report
Courage matters, confidence matters. But none of it will matter if the girl isn't attracted to you to begin with, even if she might falsely indicate that she is. Another thing that matters is energy. Basically, just be perfectly balanced and attractive, and you'll be fine!
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yeah, that's why I said you have to be approachable
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Guess there's another blog entry about this now.
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Not a blog, it’s my bulletin lmfao
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Oh sorry. 😬 Well no one can see that unless they're already on your friend list.
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That’s correct💀💀💀
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