okay, so i'll say it how it is, and i'll try not to make this too long.
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hey so me and my mom just got in a fight because im not wearing a bra around my step dad and he flirts with everyone and comments on my boobs and he walks around shirtless sometimes.
like overall his a good guy and hes never told me i cant not wear a bra around him and my mom told me that i need to even wear a bra around my uncle and told me i have boobs and its inappropriate to not wear a bra around any one and its disrespectful.
and btw this is in MY house and its only after i have a shower and i wanna be comfortable in my pjs because bras are really uncomftable for me and i'm a minor with small boobs you can barely see and she thinks its inappropriate for my boobs to jiggle around but its just extra skin and i litreally cant control it even when i wear a bra.
and he makes comments on my boobs even when im fully clothed and you can't possibly see anything and i told my mom this and shes being completly unreasonable
and shes sexuallizing a minor and she was yelling and swearing while i was calm btw shes a LAWYER. and a grown women and she thinks its disrespectful when HE walks around SHIRTLESS and she is making it out like i'm the bad guy.
and then when i told her the comments she was making she was like 'thats because he just says stupid things' and 'i didn't realise it was gonna lead this way
am i wrong and being completely unreasonable?
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steven
Dawg your stepdad should not be commenting on your breasts. Idc if he’s “overall a good guy,” if he does that shit that’s a huge red flag and borderline child molester behavior. Your mom needs to talk to him.
i agree but if i even said anything about "moleste" or anything slightly related to that with his name in it, she would beat my ass. i would talk to my dad about this but he has problems of his own too, i talk to him about litreally everything even tho hes a even worse person than my mom (hes a alholic, a manipulator, a liar, homophobic, racist, a cheater, always angry, vapes, smokes, mentally abusive and more)
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dropthesnow1_00
Ur very valid,I'm 20 and I just stopped wearing bras when I'm at home,my mom says the same thing but since my dad isn't like those kind of guys he says nothing. same thing with chest size,they're not big I'm just fat-
its slightly different with u since yes she would b sexualizing u but also like I tell my mom "why are YOU looking anyways?" they may never understand but I find it annoying when I'm told to wear a bra at home for those reasons.
I guess I get it if we have guests but then that would apply to them as well so-
either ways I get u girl T^T
tysm, thank u for the support
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Pretzle
You’re not overreacting at all! I’m really sorry ur going through that I’m not in the same situation as u but I would imagine that it must be really frustrating to hear that you’re body just existing how it is is “inappropriate” and it might make u feel like something is wrong with u but I promise you there’s nothing wrong AT ALL! Also idk ur life but it sounds kinda odd to me that ur stepdad comments on your boobs, imo I don’t think that’s appropriate to say abt a minor ESPECIALLY his step daughter, if anything ur mom should be talking to him abt that and not taking it out on u. I’m praying for u and ur situation im sorry ur going through all that❤️
thank u <3 i also agree, but my mom doesn't apparently, she thinks i need to be more ''respectful''
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