“Also, the debate of lesboy’s or trans male lesbians has always been dumb to me. Identity is an incredibly complex concept and you will never truly understand someone’s besides your own. Most people don’t even understand their own fully! Lesbianism has always had ties to masculinity and the transgender community in deeply rooted ways and trying to sever them now is unnecessary and simply uninformed.

If you spent half as much time you do hating on complex identities doing actual protest/liberating work then we might be doing better than we fucking are. This is why the older queer generation doesn’t like the new one; because all we seem to focus on is niche arguments about policing identity when the entire point of being queer is to be yourself and not be conformed into heteronormative oppressive standards.”

That’s a comment I left on one of my friends bulletins one day.

The concept of ‘normal gays’ or shit like that had always pissed me off.

I would rather talk to a neopronoun using, frog hat, 2020 kid named bug/arson who is 14 and going through the weird phase of being queer where they’re figuring everything out than ANY queer person who shuts down their own community and tries to suck off the balls of heteronormativity as one of the ‘good ones.’

If you’re threatened by someone whose identity is more complex than yours or that you don’t understand, you are pathetic and weak. You are the problem.

It has always been one thing or another.

First it was you can’t be gay.

Then it was you can be gay, but you can’t be bi.

Then you can be bi or gay, but you can’t be trans.

Then it was you can be gay or trans, but you can’t be something we deem ‘too confusing’ or ‘conflicting.’

And now it’s going backwards. They don’t want trans anymore, it’s too much.

‘I never liked trans people anyway, you can’t just change that.’

‘I never liked bi people anyway, you’re one or the other.’

‘I never liked asexuals anyway, you don’t actually have any oppression.’

‘I’m not woke enough for this.’

You only understand surface level concepts and refuse to widen your perspective on anything if it doesn’t benefit you.

A lesbian dating a trans man is not ‘too woke.’ If you were dating a person who transitioned, and you couldn’t date them anymore because the mere word blocks off that; you are weak. Love transcends words.

Go back to sleep. You don’t have to pretend you’re awake. It’s easier if you don’t.

‘You’re making the queer community look bad.’

We have ALWAYS looked bad.

Neopronouns and niche labels have never been what makes them hate us. They hate us on principle. They hate us because we do not fall into the constricting rules decided on 400 years ago.

They hate us for any reason they can have. You can be their perfect little queer—one who’s not to in their face, one who doesn’t like the rest of the community, one who sucks up and kisses their ass and assures them that they aren’t homophobic; the rest of the community is just bad!

But you will be in the same room we are. You will be shoved in with the rest of us. When the guns shoot, you will not escape the crosshairs. You are a stepstool.

And when you call for help, no one will come for you. You’ve created yourself an isolation. There are no bridges to burn when you never built one at all.

Have a niche, weird, obscure and too developed identity. That’s your right. You’re allowed to be a non-binary, transneutral lesbian on the aroace spectrum who presents as futch. (Fem + butch.)

Or don’t. If you like just being called a lesbian, if ‘lesbian’ fits all the criteria you need, that’s fine.

But do not sit in my face and act like you are any better than the rest of us, because at large—they want us both dead the same way. And that blood we both bleed is going to be used to paint themselves as the victims in 20 years, and it won’t matter that you saw yourself as superior. You are just a number.