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I've been having this friend for while now since freshman year and it was okay for a while until they started showing signs of being dependent on me or clingy, another thing is that whenever I talk about my issues they always make it about them or just tell me about how lonely they feel. At some point when I said that I don't even know if I'm gonna have a home for a few months when we're trying to move from our location and she said "oh no I don't want you to leave because then I'll be alone:( I don't want you to go cuz I feel like everyone's leaving me ;((" like bro i just said how I might be homeless in like less then a few weeks now. And she also is sending like couple-ly coded videos when she has a girlfriend?
There was also another thing recently where we were sitting together in the bathroom of the community pool (before that I've gotten yelled at by my mom) and she said "I did something bad.." and then showed me her attempt at sh. Why would she even show me that in public of all places. I even told her "why would you show me that"
I really don't have a problem about sh when someone talks to me about it but time and place people. Time and place.
I don't like it
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Unfortunately you need to sent a hard boundary with this friend about her behavior, or at least a very serious conversation. It is very normal to start harboring resentment about this friend because of their behavior but this can be very damaging if you continue to warrant this behavior not blaming you because they are treating you like a therapist when they shouldn't. They will slowly push and push to see how much they can depend on you emotionally until their mental health hinges on your reaction and how you will try to sympathize with them.
I had a friend like this and if they don't snap out of it or ghost you because 'you won't act how they want you to' or worst case scenario they will snap on you and your boundaries and threaten do very unhealthy things because you are trying to create a healthy distance. You will have to cut contact.
This is not normal between friends especially because of your age showing fresh sh to anyone is not normal, this is sadly common in online circles. However this is not healthy it is harmful.
This may seem to serious and ridiculous as a response but you need to take these signs as the biggest red flags you've ever seen. There is a very small chance i am wrong and they just need to talk to a adult and i really really hope that's what they need.
true. I know I should've done something about it a long time ago and that I should talk to them about it, but its just hard too knowing I might look like a bad person in their pov. or make me feel guilty, idk.
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