It’s been maybe around 3 weeks since i’ve left my abuser.. i haven’t interacted with them sense and i’m blocked my them anywhere where i haven’t blocked them first. i’m sick of being harassed by my abuser and his girlfriend and i don’t really know how to approach this. (if you want to hear the full story of my abuser for context, check my old blogs)
Even while me and my abuser were still bestfriends my boyfriend and i were definitely being harrassed as well for being a “lesbain”… they were upset that i was Bisexual and dating a dude… I though the harrassment would stop after i cut contact with them but they are genuinely relentless. I haven’t ended things violently or angrily or anything. I haven’t spoken to them, targeted them done ANYTHING. but still they just try to get inbetween me and my boyfriend. (even after they agreed that they’d never contact me or my bf again or “entertain the drama” which somehow i did.. when i didn’t..)
Although only maybe an hour-ish ago i find out they’re still posting about me spreading misinfo. I won’t say entirely that my hands are clean because i’ve lowk had some internalized biphobia and made jokes in poor taste before. I’m genuinely being taking out of context purely so they can talk shit about me. i’ll attach the screenshot in a second after i post this… but seriously what do i do?
This screenshot of which was from my bf (thank yewwwww luv ya) literally leave me alone PLEASE
The context in question:
there’s this really sweet pretty girl i know and i said “oh i love her she’s so pretty” and stuff along those lines.. which is the same way you’d say i’m in love with a song or a ice cream flavor. I’ve also used the term girl-crush a lot but literally that’s a PLATONIC TERM. 😭😭😭 sure maybe it doesn’t sound the best out of context but dude if i didn’t love my bf i’d leave
not to mention my abuser hated my bf, and genuinely got upset with me when i spoke good of him. literally if they’d talk shit about him i’d HAVE to agree with them in order to just be left alone about it. I’m transparent w my bf about everything and we are just sick of being harassed….
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cherry_check_
make sure your around people who wont leave you for dumb shit they r spreading. Don't let them get to you, also I'm pretty sure you can get them in trouble with the police. Ill do some digging to see if that's possible...I'm pasting this here: 1. Defamation Lawsuits If the misinformation damages your reputation, causes you financial harm, or portrays you in a false light, it may cross the legal line into (libel for written, slander for spoken words). You can pursue a civil lawsuit against them for damages, which often starts with hiring an attorney to send a cease-and-desist letter.
and another: 2. Criminal Harassment or Cyberstalking If the misinformation is used to persistently threaten, intimidate, or cause you substantial emotional distress, it can be prosecuted as a crime, such as or . You should document all posts, messages, and timestamps, and contact local law enforcement to file a report.
lots of loveeee!!! stay safe, happy, and healthy <3
also it may not be that serious (I mean to me it is beyond serious its the utter scum of the earth trying to walk over a glorious queen???) but I'm a big girls girl and will make it known that if even the TINIEST thing can get them in trouble with the law I will search it out.
by cherry_check_; ; Report
Thanks so much! I really appreciate it and i would totally get the law involved but months and weeks back i’ve had petty fights (over said harassment) and i don’t want any negative thing i’ve said to their face (and their face alone) to somehow backfire on me. Even through they’ve caused a lot of emotional distress towards me and my bf, i think the laws are still tricky because we are all minors as well. Their overall legal record isn’t good anyways and i have lots of evidence if it they try to overstep too far, but I’m hoping (which tragically i always do) that if i ignore them and not let them provoke me or my bf then they’ll give up for now.
by Will !!!!!! :>; ; Report
ofc!!! wouldn't want you to get in trouble 4 shit they did.. I def recommend looking into it tho, if they threaten or try anything please tell an adult!!
by cherry_check_; ; Report
Yeah it’s full of double edged swords, additionally my relationship is lowk SECRET.. to my parents at least so i can’t do too much without exposing myself. i might honestly give in and report this to someone because this this genuinely unexceptable..🥲
by Will !!!!!! :>; ; Report
oof I can see how that may affect a lot of things..hope ur parents dont force you guys 2 separate if they find out :(
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