~ storytime on how i lost my job because someone was stalking me ~

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Storytime for today's blog since I didn't do a whole lot! 

But last night, I spent my tip money from my first day at my new job hair dye because obvisouly we have priorities! Thankfully, I'm back being a redhead minus a few spots on the back of my head but I always say it's your guys' problem if I can't see it. Not in my mirror, not in my heart. 

Anywho - story time since i have a restraining order and it's been long enough. 

But first some context on why I was so angry about losing this job! 

For a super long time, I've had a really hard time at finding a job and keeping it, and because I'm neurodivergent and lose interest in things very quickly, finding a job that I didn't hate within a month was a blessing, and I thought I had finally found that job!

The girls that worked there were all very nice, in fact, I'm still friends with one of them, thats how nice they were. Even my manager was super cool (at first) and there were times we'd be bent over laughing at something. Also important to note, my manager was in her 50's but she acted like a 20 year old. Important for later I swear. 

Please also keep in mind, this is a small, locally owned coffee bean + spice shop so I wasn't getting paid a ton but enough for me to work there. I was willing to make a little less then I wanted in exchange for me not being miserable with every shift. 

I thought I had hit the jackpot with jobs in my little town, I got to wear whatever I want, drink coffee all day, and I got to laugh my entire shift! LITERAL DREAM for someone like me. But one cold winter night, that all changed..

(i have to be dramatic about it)

It was around 5:50 pm, and I was getting the register at the front of the store closed down since we would be closing in about ten minutes. The store was empty, it was just me and one other employee, she was in the back closing down as well. Vibes were up, Christmas was in a few days, I was picking up bestie after work, cozy music was playing, just a nice calm evening. Then this young guy, walks into the store, he's all dressed up holding a small book in his hand and an anxious look on his face. He walks right up to me at the register and says, 

"Hi, I just wanted to come in and talk to you...I've seen you in here before, and I just thought you were the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and I had to ask you out."

RIGHT AWAY, I feel bad because I have a boyfriend and at the time, it seemed like he was normal just maybe a really nervous. 

I don't say anything to him because frankly I had no idea what I was supposed to say. Then he hands me the book in his hand.

"And maybe if you needed someone to fill this out with, let me know..."

I look at the cover of it and read: Couples Workbook.

I sigh because now I have to break this guys confidence. I tell him thank you for the compliements, but I do have a boyfriend, and do you want your book back.

He shakes his head defeated, says bye, and then leaves me and the book. 

The other employee who had (thankfully) been watching the entire ordeal comes out from the shelf she was hiding behind and starts giggling. We both agreed he seemed a little odd, but it was sweet of him to try and it's hard to just walk up to a stranger and shoot your shot like that. 

I SHOULDA HIT HIM OR SM

The following morning, I get a call from my manager, she says: "Your little friend from the other night came back...he left you note."

"WHAT?"

"Yeah, he taped a note to the door, it's really scary.."

(I would upload the pic of it, but I'm not sure I'm allowed too)

She sends me a photo of the note that he had attached to the door prior to the store opening and it hardly pressed letters he wrote:

"BE MinE yOu bEaUtIful Fu__king PRinCeSS."

And surrounding that, were violent and threatening messages, things like 'ur mine, i'm sure of it", "we'd be perfect together, i'll die if I can't have you." creepy stuff, and clearly written with a firmly pressed hand.

Because of this, my manager says she's going to take me off the schedule for the next few days, just to ensure he doesn't come back, and if he does, she'll call the police for harassment. 

At the time, I do believe she truly cared about my safety, I still believe that, but I do think her intentions changed over time but we'll get to that. 

The next day, she called me once again, and this time he had left a bouquet roses on the doorstep of the store as well as petals scattered across the front sidewalk. My manager had me stay home again while she called the police and gave them photos of everything, I also called the office assigned to our case to give him a physical description. Fortunately, my recollection of how he looked wasn't needed because he came back to the store again! He walked in looking for me, acting like he was in a panic. My manager yelled at him while he made excuses and continued scanning the store looking for me. (I wasn't there don't worry) Eventually she scared him away and called the police who later found him down the street freaking out over the whole ordeal.That was when we also found out that he already had open cases for violence and threatening behaviors and this wasn't the first time he had been doing these kinds of things. 

Over the next few weeks, I proceeded to get a restraining order, dealt with my parents being absolutely atrocious throughout the whole thing, and then the best part, losing my job!! My manager called me almost every day after I told her i was getting a restraining order acting like she was a 15 year old calling to get more drama to spread around high school- it was so so strange. She also made jokes about "him going after her next" like that was something that she wanted to happen for attention, it was very frustrating.

Then she tells me that for the next two weeks shes going to take me off the schedule and then the moment she needs me to come back, she'll call me and let me know. She said it was because she was so kind (im so serious) and that it was out of the goodness of her heart. And guess what? I never heard from her again! And could I have messaged her first, sure! But then I find out from that friend who was still working there, that she didn't want to call me and fire me, she just wanted to leave it be and not say anything...so leave me out to dry and figure it out on my own...and that apparently it was my fault I was being stalked and 'i should have been more careful'

ARE WE BEING DEADASS?

Anyways, thats my storytime, thank you if you read the whole thing lol i'm just trying to post more things on here :))

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*i'm also going to put a list of current songs im listening too, and my most recent cofffee order since I'm a barista now + some misc things - and maybe you guys can let me know urs??*

~ current vinyl ~

Side One

• You are the Right One - Sports

• Decode - Paramore 

• Thinking of you - Katy Perry

• Bloodstream - Alyssa Grace?

• Sun Bleached Flies - Ethel Cain

• Jennifer's Body - Julia Wolf

Side Two

• In my Room - Julia Wolf

• Dream Girl Evil - Florence + The Machine

• Less - Olivia Rodrigo

• Slide - Chase Atlantic

• On the Borderline - Thomas Sanders

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^ same songs as yesterday ^

:)