things people don't talk about enough !

before we begin, this is from my experience! 

topics in this blog will be slightly uncomfortable, sexual, and may be triggering in a way. 

i feel like there are certain topics that we, as a society, don't speak about enough. 

maybe because they are rather personal, and we're taught not to mention it otherwise it's 'weird'. 

however, we all need reassurance about certain things sometimes! 

so here are the things that i learned as a child not to talk about, but do now anyways! 

p.s. tmi doesn't exist with me, if you guys ever need a talk about literally anything, id be more than happy to listen. 

starting off strong with female anatomy. 

the standard of being 'perfect' down there. 

as a child, and throughout middle school we are taught about mainly boys reproductive systems and not much about girls. 

at least, that's how it was for me. 

for a very long time, i thought that the way i looked down there was wrong, or weird. 

many of the boys in middle school made comments about it being pink, and if it has hair or an odor.

that wasn't the way i looked, i wasn't perfectly pink, more brown. 

yes, it had an odor, as organs do, but of course, i didn't know that was normal. 

i truthfully thought i had to be perfect down there or nobody would ever love me. 

i began shaving constantly which led to severe irritation and many little cuts. 

i even tried to bleach/lighten it down there, because i thought it had to be a perfect pink. 

that led to even more irritation and infection. 

which made me more insecure. 

i, personally, have a bit more labia than the typical girl, which i hated. 

i even tried to cut it off, which.. obviously.. not a good idea. 

but, hey, i was 11 and extremely insecure. 

i even looked up adult sites just to see how i was 'supposed to look'. 

i had no idea it was normal to be different down there. 

as i grew up i learned that there are so many different kinds, and that i should have never been so insecure in the first place. 

i know so many others are going through similar stuff, so i thought i should share it and let people know that they are not at all alone. 

remember to be confident in your own skin, it doesn't matter what the norm is, you're beautiful either way. 

secondly is body shaming! 

i think everyone has been shamed for their body at some point in their life. 

whether you're underweight, overweight, or a healthy weight. 

nobody is ever going to be accepting of it. 

i personally have been skinny my whole life, but skinny shaming is the same as fat shaming. 

i constantly got told to 'eat a burger', 'wow, you're really skin and bones', 'buy a size up so you can gain weight and fit into it when you're older.'

i had a fast metabolism, it wasn't fair to me. 

even now, i can't find clothes that fit me well. 

lately, a small looks like a medium on me and i hate it. 

i have been trying to gain weight for years, and it led to an eating disorder. 

i know this is something others can relate to as well so of course i put it out there. 

I'm gonna stop with these two so far, just to see if people like that im talking about this, or if anybody wants me to talk about a certain topic. 

let me know if you want me to talk about a certain topic, and never feel ashamed to talk about stuff like this, it's completely normal. 

remember i love you all, and you're not alone in the stupid beauty standards of the world.