Tiny problem in the selfshipping/yumeship community

So is most of us know yumeshiping/selfshipping is whenever you ship yourself familiarly romantically or another one that I can't remember, but mainly talking about romantic in this post. if your yumeship is altering your relationships that isn't a good thing because I if dated someone before (I posted another blog about them) that had gotten super upset that I yumeshipped with a specific character I do not use my ship with them anymore because it brings me bad memories but they got super jealous and I barely even like yumeshipped with them and they got so upset to the point where they broke up with me I was also happy for that for many other reasons that I also said the other rant but yeah