unstable/dysfunctional families

sorry small vent/rant. i love my family so much and i'm glad to live with them, but holy moly, they are ALWAYS fighting. i feel like everyone in this house takes things personally? or raises their voice over every little thing? or loves the gaslight and guilt? BPD runs in my family so it's not a shocker (i have it too) but it gets so tiring when every thing is a fight, when you always have to walk on eggshells or be scared to say one wrong thing and getting lashed out at. hopefully you guys can relate because it's hard and scary and i swear it's the main reason i became a people pleaser because i'm the youngest and i'm always mediating arguments between my sisters and my mom and sisters, meaning i've really just had to fend for myself.