what happened to real love and romance?

this is something else i want to talk about because it's lowkey sad how most relationships today aren't love but purely just lust and im gonna just talk about this in general because people need to hear it. you know why most people aren't dating nowadays? it's mostly because of this. why? because of porn.

 porn ruins you. ruins how you think. from viewing that content you think of people as objects that are just to be used. you don't see them as real people with feelings. it effects relationships. i bet that if porn never existed things would be a lot better with dating. maybe more people would actually be more romantic with each other instead of trying to get in each other's pants so much. 

but it's not even that it's just how people are nowadays- all this cheating and lying and just being manipulative and shit. it turns people off. even with mainstream songs they mostly talk about lusting for someone what they wanna do to this person and just sex. you rarely ever hear music that's romantic yk like catching feelings and all that goody stuff. everything always has to be about sex and genitals in almost all the things you hear about and it honestly sucks because not everything is about that.

 some people need it like everyday 24/7 others don't and it's just crazy to me. it's like while most people are talking abt that stuff i don't wanna be a part of it. i don't care for lust or sex. i don't need it. if anything it just makes me feel uncomfortable and i don't think i would especially with bad gender dysphoria. sometimes i wish that i could've been born without genitals and parts like one of those ken dolls from barbie. i don't have to worry about shit or feel dysphoric abt my body yk? 

like don't get me wrong sex is not a bad thing but when you add just add pure lust to it all the time that's when it starts getting bad. like it's not even a lovey dovey experience anymore. it's supposed to be fun and a nice private moment between you and your partner yk not this porn shit. that has like made it seem like sex is always aggressive and violent and all this other shit and it's not. i wish people could wake up and see that but only they can change like really stop themselves from watching this shit bc it's just corrupting your brain. it's false. maybe there is real romantic real romantic relationships somewhere out there but you hardly ever see them.