confused

my mum is always absolutely raging at me and I don’t really understand why

I’m not a ‘bad’ kid? At least not stereotypically. I don’t steal money, I don’t sneak out, I don’t smoke or drink, I don’t argue or yell, but she’s just so ANGRY still. I was talking to her ablut WiFi and asking her if we can get a new wifi service because ours is horrible and she got so mad?? I didn’t swear or yell or do anything like that. I guess I do have a tone on me but that’s because I was talking about terrible WiFi not unicorns and rainbows 

I asked to stay off of school today (to be fair I have been staying off of school more than I should) and she yelled at me through the phone like ‘FINE BUT YOUR LAPTOP AND PHONE IS BEING TAKEN AWAY AND WE’RE HAVING A LONG TALK AND BLAH BLAH BLAH’ and I really just didn’t understand why she was so insanely mad. 

I do have a habit of being rude accidentally due to my neurodivergence so I am trying to understand her but I just don’t get it. She called my actions ‘borderline abuse’ once… all I do is talk to her in a weird tone sometimes, avoid her, and ask her for stuff sometimes. 

She has been abusive to me before so this is either me being a bitch and not knowing it or her being a bitch and not knowing it 

I think that I don’t fit her standards of what a child should be like. I’m very asocial and I do avoid her but thats just part of my nature. I’m like that to everyone and she takes such offence to it. I like being alone. I also think she sees my tone as ‘attitude/rudeness’ when thats just how I naturally talk.  She yells at my brothers 24/7 too so she might just have a problem