A few days ago i had a week off school, and during that time only one of my friends actually bothered to talk to me. Im not saying my friends have to talk to me all the time, but this feels a little different. In the past i have always had to text first and even in school i've had to literally chase them around just for them to notice me. And now, during that week off school i stopped texting first to see who actually wants to talk to me. Only one friend, which is more then enough. But i still think its kinda fucked up to pretend to like someone, then to treat them like an extra. Idk maybe i'm over reacting, but the thing is me and these freinds used to go out a lot and now they suddenly don't want to, maybe its because i stopped making plans first and they don't wanna bother.
Please tell me if i'm over reacting or if something similar is happening to you
(btw i'm not ungrateful for my friends/ friend. this is just me ranting)
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Caileigh
I stopped texting my friends, they stopped texting me, I get a message like once every two months directly to me from a friend (except for one friend we do message sometimes) at first I thought it sucked that they didn't like me much but then I realized that I much prefer being without them than with them, I avoid them at breaks and I never message first anymore (except for to that one friend) I honestly enjoy being alone now and I am just waiting to meet new people yk, BC these 'friends' are mostly predetermined childhood friends, and I do still talk at school but I just can't relate to most of them anymore. Basically what I am trying to say is that friends matter it's nice to have people around but I think it's also good to seperate your self every once and a while too! But go thru your life however feels best for you, you don't have to listen to online strangerss BC I don't know you, maybe the way I think isn't right for you, so just do what you want with your life at this moment I am sure it will work out!
Its so sad growing apart from people and being so different after only a few years. But you're right, its probably better to let go and find other and better people to actually relate to. Im so sorry you're going through something like this but better people will come soon.
Im honestly trying to distance myself rn but its hard, tysm for the comment and advice. :3
by Han; ; Report
It is hard especially because sometimes (in my case maybe yours too) they can be nice and it feels like your being dramatic by leaving them, but what I do is remember that real friends don't always get along but they try to connect and understand each other.
by Caileigh; ; Report
frenchexit2014
I've been going through the same kind of, I changed schools a bit ago and only 1 friend talks to me to hangout or whatever. The others? I'm the one that messages them first, it suckss!!!
I don't feel like ur overreacting but maybe try talking to them abt how you've been feeling yk? ૮(˶ㅠ︿ㅠ)ა
Im soo sorry you're going through something like this. If i were you i would stop texting first and just let them go (if you didn't already). Theres always better people and friends, so its better not to chase the same people and to try find new people. Trust me ik how hard it is to find new friends, but you will soon trust.
I will try and explain to them, i'm honestly just scared of like getting shit talked or called dramatic but yk. Tysmm for the comment :3
by Han; ; Report
EKSISTO
sometimes in life depending on situation and how much you analyzed it and came to conclusions, sometimes, you just have to realize that some "friendships" are just temporary, especially in school
at a certain age, everyone is for themselves and their occupations
friends you laughed all day with and hang out with are fading away more and more, now a simple smile feels forced
depending on the situation again, they can leave you behind because they are done with what they needed from you at a certain point in their life.
it's a long story trust me and maybe you know it but just saying because I'm facing kind of similar stuff in my life too right now
This comment is so sweet, you're a amazing writer and explained this so well. Im sorry you're going through something similar to this, but its good to remember it will get better and that theres always better people out there.
by Han; ; Report
we all living the same movie called Life and everyone has different "episodes" or similar.
in my vision, when they are similar, we go through the same season.
by EKSISTO; ; Report