so what in the world should i do.
i have this best friend. she’s extremely pretty and nice and honestly? like my lacy.
she always gets all the boys in our friendship. i usually take the backseat. i never minded since i wasn’t that interested.
but recently, i got a, well, kinda talking stage. not exactly dating but close to it. we talked everyday online, talked everyday in school too, and gave gifts to each other. i thought after 4 months of straight talking, this boy and i would get into a real relationship. BUT NOOOO!
Beginning of June happens. My best friend calls me urgently. “ Girl, block the boy you’re talking to right now. He actually has a girlfriend!”
My dumb ass, actually believes her, no questions asked. She’s my best friend! So after blocking him without actually talking to him, my best friend is happy with me. and then goes no contact with me for 3 weeks. July is here. im so confused. it’s summer! im moving next month. I think I should have some memories this summer with her but instead she’s just leaving me on delivered.
And then a week ago, i find out from social media that they, yes the boy i blocked, and my best friend are dating…… i asked her about it, and all she said was “hahaha, yes. you weren’t dating him anyways!”
i feel so hurt and the stupidest thing is I don’t know what to do. she’s my freaking twin for life and i still am talking to her, i actually just hanged out with her yesterday.
just need some true honest advice. sorry for the rant. i feel like in some places, my best friend is right. we were actually not dating so why do i feel so betrayed?
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sunb3rry
first of all i am really sorry that happened to you and you definitely get to feel upset. What she did sucked. It doesnt matter that you werent dating him, you liked him and i assume she knew that. It might sound harsh because i do understand that shes your friend and all that. But she did lie to you when she said he had a girlfriend and then was unnecessarily mean when you asked about it. His behaviour also kinda sucks ngl...but anyway
i know its hard but in my personal experience, its best to get some space, do you have some other friends you can hang out with? or maybe a hobby you like doing? its good to get your mind off it! i do not know your friend but it does seem kind off deliberate and she probably wants to rub it in your face / get a reaction, so its best to not give her that.
I fell out with my bff last year and one thing that helped me get some space was writing down what happened and how i felt. Whenever i was tempted to reach out again, i reread it and decided if it was worth it or not.
At the end of the day its your life and you shouldnt have people in it that make you feel bad or upset. You are probably young and there will be so many new friends in your future.
Of course you can also try talking to her but set some clear boundaries for yourself, maybe write them down as well and when she crosses them, be strict! You do not have tu run after someone that isnt worth it. Maybe its also just a phase, a break or some space dont have to be permanent. Be kind to yourself and your feelings!
Take care and i wish you the best summer ever!
i have another close friend to mine so im probably going to hang out with her…. im not going to talk to my other friend anymore. since im moving schools , I probably will never see her again. thank u so much for the advice
by thelastgirlonearth; ; Report
natalie?
Girl that isn't no friend wowwwwww. Imma keep it a buck, block her, block him, and move on from them both. People like that are best kept hellllla away. No person, ever, who respects you would do shit like that. I am so sorry that happened, but honestly, she doesn't give a shit about your feelings and that is horrible and undeserved and again I am sorry that happened. I wouldn't even talk to her about it, what is there to talk about? She is definitely not a good friend nor a good person:/
yup im going to go no contact on both of them! Ty for ur advice queennn
by thelastgirlonearth; ; Report
neomatcha
that's a terrible thing to do!! to do that to your friend over a BOY? ew!! that's not friend behavior at all, and super mean of her to do that and go no-contact suddenly :(( i honestly would personally never talk to her again, but if you wanna preserve the friendship, you should talk to her about how you feel and ask her why she would lie like that. regardless, don't trust her at all moving forward. good luck!!
yeahhh whenever i talk to her about it, she always become passive aggressive TwT so I actually am going to grow a backbone and just block her ty for the advice >33
by thelastgirlonearth; ; Report