I turned 16 recently and I feel like I am now realizing how little I know about myself. Like everything I thought I knew about my interests, my likes and dislikes, are wrong. Then when my friends talk about how they perceive me it make it feel worse. Idk.. did this even make sense? is this normal? umm idk help
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Lexie <3
i'm 15 but i understand you. i don't know who i am yet and i don't know how to find out but apart of me doesn't want to because i would be so bored if i knew my personality, i knew every single one of my interests, and i knew what kind of person i am. because then whats the point?? i hope through all of my teen years i'm still discovering urself, after all, thats what teen years are for <3 self discovery! or at least thats what i tell myself.
ur so right about hearing how friends and other people percieve me. i hate it and it makes me realise everything i 'knew' about myself was wrong. i hope i can stop worrying so much about how i'm percieved and i hope i start to stop trying to percieve myself or let myself be percieved because i'm different in the eyes of every person i meet. i want to learn to just let myself be, but i dont see that happening for me anytime soon lmao
i hope i learn to let my life blur by and i hope i never truly know myself because than whats the point? i hope i stop trying to define myself by my interests as well, because i tend to do that all the time and it's the worst. my interests mean so much to me and realising i'm 'larping' them makes me want to kms...
we are in this with eachother, i wish you the best of luck with finding and accepting urself and happy 16th ofc!!!
ugh you get me girl. its nice to know other people out there feel the same way, (and can phrase it a whole lot better lol) best of luck to you too <3
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s.c.o.t.t.i.e
It is perfectly normal to hit a stage in life where you feel that you don't know yourself. It is okay to feel like your interest, hobbies, likes, dislikes just aren't you anymore. It's just important that you take that as a sign to find yourself. Now is the perfect time to try out new hobbies, go on new adventures, try new foods, try new shows, watch new movies, the world is your oyster.
Don't get me wrong, feeling this way is scary. It is scary to feel this way and I can understand how feeling this way can be overwhelming. It is just important that you take this new found version of yourself and get to learn it. Grow with it, find out new things about yourself, and really learn to love this version of yourself.
If you start to feel like you're struggling to find new hobbies, if you're loosing interest in everything, if you're starting to feel depressed then I recommend reaching out to someone. Reach out to your parents, guardian, trusted adult, teacher, school counselor, etc. and let them know that you are feeling this way. It's important that you identify the difference between finding a new version of yourself and seeing the tell-tale signs of depression. I recommend reading through the symptoms of depression and seeing if they apply to you, and just to be safe, talking with a professional to ensure that you are not facing depression.
Just incase if you don't know the tell-tale signs of depression, there is an article by the Mayo Clinic about Depression that lists the symptoms. Depression (major depressive disorder) - Mayo Clinic.
Sending you all my positive vibes and well wishes!
Thank you so much for the wisdom and advice it gave me a lot more perspective!!🙏
Thanks for the concern as well, but I don't think this is a sign of depression, more just an awkward transitioning phase in my life
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I'm so glad that it isn't a sign of depression! Please enjoy this new transitioning phase of your life! Try out new foods, new hobbies, new adventures, do a little bit of everything that your heart desires (that is safe, of course). Now is a beautiful time to figure out new things about yourself and learn to love this new version of yourself!
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Cysper04
I don't really know either.
Maybe your tastes are changing like what you like and don't like or something.
I think that might be the case