bro i’ve been looking at my tiktok posts and i’m so disgusted by the comments from old men fetishizing my style. commenting things like “nice boobs” or other nasty things. i love to dress gothic and other fashion cultures and i always become sad whenever i see comments that literally over sexualize the way i present myself. anyway it just disappoints me how so many women have been detoured to hiding their true identity and not being free. we should all have a voice and passion through clothes and makeup and hairstyles. i just wish people wouldn’t take that away from others.
sry if this didn’t make much sense
xoxo
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lovely.catie8<3
agh i feel you 100% 🫠 genuinely dont understand how they feel the need to comment or look at us weirdly just bc we present ourselves differently than others. its like some sick fantasy thing. like let women live, damn it!
Fallen Rewind
Goth dress and other variations are inherently sexualized. I'm not sure what you'd expect if you project yourself online, though I don't know to what extent or how much you do.
Ah, victim blaming, classic.
by MissLuger; ; Report
How is she a victim? I know about real victims. Stop minimizing their struggles.
by Fallen Rewind; ; Report
just bc something is “inherently sexualized” doesnt make commenting vulgar things ok. the gothic style wasnt made to BE anything else other than living and appreciating the introspective nature of life, nonconformity and just vibing to good ass music. nothing more, and nothing less.
by lovely.catie8<3; ; Report
i was never showing my body in an explicit way. i was simply wearing a tshirt. women are constantly ridiculed for dressing a certain way or fetishized regardless of what they’re wearing. i shouldn’t have to defend myself for being disappointed in how people treat me
by helenaxrawr; ; Report
So the point of goth dress was never to make you more attractive in any way, and men are just suppose to ignore you when when your boobs are hanging out, but simultanously pay attention to you as well?
by Fallen Rewind; ; Report
no, the point of goth fashion isn’t to make myself attractive to men. and no my body existing doesn’t mean i should expect or accept sexual comments from strangers. i was wearing a t-shirt. being disappointed that people reduce me to my body isn’t unreasonable. and no my boobs weren’t hanging out lol
by helenaxrawr; ; Report
I wasn't asking you to defend yourself, but don't think you're being very realistic either. If your picture was the same as your picture here, then no, there's nothing explicit about it.
by Fallen Rewind; ; Report
Ok, but I didn't say making yourself attractive exclusively to men, I just said making yourself look attractive. You do realize men get entirely judged on their body too right?
Your boobs weren't hanging out, but the other commentator had hers out.
by Fallen Rewind; ; Report
what, so a bit of cleavage warrants something inappropriate to be said to me? youre talking as if i had my chest fully out, which i dont. i dont understand how "being attractive" correlates to wanting men's attention to you just because i dress alternatively. when i go outside, i dont stare and gawk at anyone in public because thats fucking weird.
by lovely.catie8<3; ; Report
So the topic has shifted, we're talking about gawking now? I thought we were talking about comments regarding women's bodies online, or so-called rude and vulgar comments (which weren't precisely stated, except 'nice boobs'). Do you want everyone to not look at you when you're outside? If they stare, how long is too long? Are you saying being attractive has nothing to do with getting attention from men (or women)?
by Fallen Rewind; ; Report