Hey folks!
I graduated yesterday. This is supposed to be a happy moment but unfortunately I didn't get to have much of a special day. As I had been saying for months, I wasn't excited for my graduation because it was never going to be about me, it was going to be about my parents. They spent our entire time on campus for the actual ceremony pissing and moaning about everything that they could, harassing me away from talking to people by looming and staring from a distance, and dragged my boyfriend and I about 40 miles to get food when we could have gone somewhere closer to where I live (but, of course, that means that they would need to do something slightly inconvenient). I'm never surprised by this sort of behaviour, they're not well socialised if I'm honest. I just feel a bit burned because the one day in my life where I get to celebrate a real achievement was completely ruined by their shitty attitudes and inability to think about people outside of themselves. With that being said, I'm partially to blame for my shit day because I should have taken control of that situation and told them to get it together.
But none of that really matters because I know it is actually my achievement. I put in the work and dragged myself through an absolute shower of shit for 5 years to get to the end of it. Plus, I got to see my friends in the evening. They were far more attentive and kind about the whole thing. I got a card and some vouchers for the local ice cream parlour in my village. I still just couldn't fully shake off that bad feelings for the rest of the evening and just sank a load of vodka until going to bed at my friend's place.
I've learned enough from that situation to know how to handle it if I ever manage to do anything as profound as finishing my undergrad ever again. I'm determined to stand up for myself better in future.
I hope you guys are doing well and taking care.
Kisses,
Luke
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Mybailey
First thing forward, congratulations on the graduation :> And ur absolutely right, none of that matters because it was originally your day. I’m sorry your parents spoiled the mood but it’s not your fault for not being more assertive. It’s your parents after all and sometimes It can be hard to defend ourselves against them.
I hope you focus more on the bright side of things and realize that one bad moment at a graduation doesn’t compare to the hard work you put in and your achievements <3Thank you so much! This has honestly helped me feel a little better and return to a more sensible perspective. You're right. There's no need to let them ruin the sense of achievement, even if they messed up the day for me. I really appreciate the input <:)
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