Lately I’ve been questioning my gender and find myself most comfortable with being genderfluid but I can’t help but feel like I’m constantly being judged in a way if I don’t come off as someone who fluctuates their expression between feminine and masculine. I’m pretty feminine presenting, I’ve told my friends that I feel like I’m genderfluid and was met with the response of “well you don’t come off as that.” whateverdatmeans? I don’t really know my confusion or confliction but I’ll figure it out
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Cranky Old Witch
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You don't owe presentation to anyone else.
People judge. It is our natural state. Judging that which is different was important to us as a species 100,000 years ago when a 'new' person might mean conflict and the destruction of the clan. Someone acting 'different' might mean disease and the destruction of the clan.
Well, it's a fucking 100,000 years later and our monkey brains can just get the fuck over it:
You've got one life to live, and you're going to know different sorts of love from all sorts of friendships, relationships, born family, found family, etc.
But to navigate it all, you DESERVE to love yourself through it all, so be you. Defiantly if you must.