Im 18 years old and my parents wont let me see my boyfriend
To be fair its really just my mom but my dad isn't gonna stand up for himself to her, Im not a psychiatrist but I'm 80% sure my mom has BPD 😭. (not gonna go into full detail for that) Anyways she dislikes him because she "associates him with my past" I was scared to tell her at first but when I eventually did she completely crashed out took all my devices. I am currently typing this on a school Chromebook...
I want to make her understand I'm 18 now and I should be able to decide if I want him apart of my life, especially when he makes me happy.
Shes very stubborn.. she always talks over me and stuff idk how to convince her should I just move out at this point I'll always live with a deep pit in my chest without him..
And before you say use the "Im 18 I can do what I want" I've tried this and lets just say it didn't end well. Im also a senior in highschool, a highschool SHE teaches at if that means anything.
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eizen_8
sounds like ur mum may have NPD, not BPD from the initial look like mine.. but anyway I think I have a possible solution.
the only way im ever able to get something off my mum is doing chores, she refuses to let me unless it benefits her. maybe ask if you can do something, then go out with him in return
and if that doesn't work, I would just pester her, if she gets annoyed enough she might just give up and let you
and if none of these work, tell her your going shopping or something then just go out with your boyfriend. the classic teenager move, of course
(just be careful!)
Omg wait 😭 nah cuz that's literally exactly how my mom is except ever since I told her I'm actually not allowed to go out since that's how I have been seeing until now. But Ima figure something out I got to. Honestly, I'm really afraid he's scared or uh idk I'm just paranoid I hope! I am very attached I don't think my heart could take losing him..
Of course I do want him to be happy in the end and I couldn't bear the thought of making him think he's the cause of something Ive done to myself so I wouldn't even attempt.
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Latrodectus
I would personally focus on graduating and getting a job to be able to move out of your mom's house. I grew up in a home environment like this and so I understand where you are coming from. Do you have any friends you can live with or rent with once you have graduated?
I also wanted to ask, has your mom ever given any reasons for not liking your boyfriend?
I am sorry you are going through this.
Okay Im not sure if my comment got deleted somehow cuz I cant see it but I'ma just try to remember what I typed
I have a friend who has offered it but I honestly am a bit uncomfortable around him and some of the things he says/does (Even though its not intentional) Also he's a guy so.. Idk Id be uncomfortable with that.
The only reason my mom doesn't like him is because he used to be close friends with someone who treated me like crap.. But they're no longer friends if anything they hate each other.
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