I need help with my homophobic friend

Everything i write right know is written with care for my friends and other. I dont hate her at all, i truly care about her, but i really need to rant about this. Also sorry for writing mistakes. 

So i have a close friend of mine who is very religious and likes to follow the traditional gender roles(not that thats anything bad about that in general), but i think her thoughts on queer people and gender roles is a bit bad and its lowkey starting to hurt me(mentally ofc). So for the last times ive been talking to her, she has been saying som weird and brutal things to me. I hate this as i know she doesnt mean any harm and just wants to understand, but i think she forgets that im queer and a demigirl, so her thoughts get really brutal and said with no care. 

She told me stuff like how she didnt understand how extreme masc lesbians didnt just change gender, how pansexual and nonbinary people doesnt actually exist and how she and one of her friends thinks that trans people are sick in the head...

With me being non labeled and demi girl, this really hurt, as she is literally saying who i am cant exist and i think its insane to say someone is sick in the head just for trying to feel comfortable in their own body, a feeling i know damn well. Ive told her why some people like myself are queer. I told her that trans and non binary people cant relate with their born gender no matter how much alike the gender they are. Ive told her that the gender roles we have today, is just something thats been pushed on to us for all these years, but she keeps going on about how its biological, so we cant actually be like this. Which i think is just insane, because thats not how it works and ive told her that, but she just wont listen...

When i came out to her, i had to explain what i meant when saying im non labeled and a demi girl. i told her that i like both genders, but dont want to push myself into a stereotype, how i dont actually belive we should have labels at all(i still understand why we have them) and how i just dont feel comfortable being called bi or anything else, because thats not who i am. Then she keeps saying im bi... like no girl what are you even on about. 

She also told me how she wish more girls were feminine, because we are fewer feminine people on this earth. Which i dont think is true as more men have become more feminine than masculine(which is great that people can be themself), but i know she wont like it if i use that as an argument, because she wish it were girls being feminine instead. The worst thing though is how she said that no one cares anymore if anyones gay, which is far from the truth as you are here caring more about what sexuality i am than myself and still not accepting me. 

I now cant really talk to her without thinking about this(also because thats like half our convos right know), which is really bad, because i kind of get disgusted about how she can think like that about others. I still want to be friends with her though. I mean she is one of the sweetest people i know, but her meanings are literally making me feel disgusted about myself and that i shouldnt be who i am. I really dont know what to do, as we both are also in the same theater and i know none of us are going to quit anytime soon. This is also making me wondering about how other people around me are going to react. Like i havent come out to my parents, which is now really scary to me...