i will keep it short, i was hanging out iwth a friend and then he grabbed me and pinched me by the stomach i thought he was just being silly, he then moved his hand upwards under my shirt i was confused, i didnt think he would do anything weird but i hoped he wouldnt move his hand up above my stomach but he did. He kind of touched my chest a bit and i was confused as hell and didnt know what to do. I thought i should wait and see if he wants to touch my chest or not, if he wants to he would, and if he doesnt want to and it was an accident he would just move away his hand bc he didnt wanna do that. I should have let him do something so i can see what would happen, but instead i was stupid and weak and yelled "stop" and asked in a normal and confused voice "what are you doing" if i waited a bit longer i would definitely know if i should be friends with him or not but bc i was stupid and reacted to early now i dont. I feel so guilty bc i reacted like that but i didnt want anyone to touch my chest. I feel so guilty and so sorry for reacting too early. I told my mom and she says she really wants me to be friends with him and that its a thing ppl do. I dont like it i dont think its ok to touch someones chest even if they are in a relationship i just dont like it like who gave them the right to i think its not ok i think no one should do that i wish ppl would stop but my mom kind of disagrees bc someone has to make the first move or something, i mean she said she thinks touching someones chest is bad, but then a few days later switched to say its ok, and the a few days later switched to say its almost good??? idk what to do and im scared and my mom is yelling at me for not opening my messages bc i dont reply to him or other ppl bc of how exhausted i am and how little energy i have and idk why i wanna stop i wanna reply to ppl but i cant she doesnt understand when i cand and i cant she never understands the difference between "i dont want" and "i CANT, i AM NOT ABLE TO" i wanna reply to him and other ppl but im so sad and exausted so i cant even process what i read i try to watch youtube videos or do something in generaly but when im feeling really abd and awful i cant process what im doing and im so sorry for that she says now everyone will hate me im so sorry i didnt mean to ignore them i wanna reply but i cant focus or even functiona dn think of a reply at the moment everything is blurry foggy and i cant hink of anything or about anything im sorry i dissapointed her and everyone else im so sorry im sorry to my mom everyone will hate me and she wants me to reply and i want to reply to everyone she says everyone will hate me im sorry im really really sorry im sorry i am a dissapointment to her every time i try to say something she always says "why are you not replying" and im sorry i cant when im this stressed and brainrotted im sorry imsorry im sorry
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Imsad
i alrady see three comments and rad them thank you so much everyone i will reply individually once i get the energy, one more thing to mention, he invited me to his house and said two other ppl will be there but they were not, he says they said they will come but didnt. And also i dont know if he did that on purpose or not, i forgot to mention he said he wanted to hug me and that was an accident. Idk how to tell if it was actually an accident or not. Idk if this help when he invited me he invited me to sleep over and i said no since i dont know him well but i would like in the future when we become closer friends. My mom said he didnt mean it and it was a joke bc i asked how long i can stay and he said that i can sleep over as a joke answer. idk if me saying that was even needed idk i just wanna find out if it was an accident or not, since i read the comments but didnt process them yet they seem nice but i have no energy to reply i will rpely later thank you!!!!
Playertesting_149
this might not be very comforting but try to calm down a bit mate, if your friend did that without warning (and possibly without your consent) it's fair that you reacted the way you did, take a break and whatnot, and when you're ready try to talk to others slowly but surely, hell, maybe even apologize to your friend if you want to. My apologies if it doesn't sound very supporting (or empathetic, if you will, i struggle a bit with these type of comments) or anything like that, hopefully you sort everything out eventually, you can also post things here like you just did to vent if that's the right term.
P.S: you're NOT a disappointment, you never were and i want you to keep that in mind
Tax Evaser
i think your friends a total creep. your mom is horrible for saying that because you basically got sa'd (or almost did) and she said it was normal. you didn't even consent and he didn't even ask if he could do that do you. i think you should go tell a friend about what's going on, or anyone you trust really. i hope your situation goes out alright in the end. (sorry if this came off as insensitive.)
🥀Melancholic Doll🥀
You have absolutely nothing to apologize for, and you are not a disappointment.
Saying "stop" was exactly the right thing to do. You were not stupid or weak. You were strong, and your instincts protected you. You never have to wait and let someone violate your boundaries just to "see what they will do." Moving his hand under your shirt without permission was a massive violation.
Your mom is completely wrong. Touching someone's chest without clear consent is not "making a first move"; it is assault. It is absolutely not okay, and you have every right to be upset. You do not owe this person your friendship.
Take the space you need. Anyone who actually cares about you will not hate you for taking time to recover. Put your phone on "Do Not Disturb" or mute your notifications. You do not owe anyone a reply right now, especially not to the person who did this to you.
Please stop apologizing. You were put in a terrible situation, and your reaction is completely valid. Focus on resting and doing whatever makes you feel safe right now. 💕